The technique I use is outside in; its part of the emotion coaching part of 123 magic
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13-01-2014 21:31 #11Senior Member
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13-01-2014 21:32 #12
I would also respond with getting down to eye level with the child and speaking firm. If that didn't work I would take the child to the bedroom and close the door. I don't think that is the best response, I'm just saying what I did. I actually dont recall too many tantrums, at least not any full blown tantrums. I think sometimes mothers are too harsh on themselves. We can all know what the best response would be, but we are only human and our feelings jump in the way at times. Give the child maximum love, and the odd bit of yelling wont do much harm. marie
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13-01-2014 22:10 #14
I must add I have just started doing this, still get tantrums but less than before, so there's definitely some improvement.
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14-01-2014 10:29 #15Senior Member
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Thanks for the supportive advice. I think a "time out" for me is a god idea!! I'm going to look up the 123 magic people refer to as well.
Gees this parenting business is hard work. Great fun, loads of laughs, but bloody hard work sometimes!!
14-01-2014 14:44 #16
If you have a kindle or kindle app on ipad, the 123 magic book is only about $6 ish to get from the amazon store I find it's very helpful to stop tantrums etc. and as for how I stop myself losing my temper: I try to remind myself that he's not doing this on purpose to annoy me, he's doing this because he's upset. I try to remove myself from taking it personally.
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14-01-2014 15:42 #17
Im still having the same issue with my 5.5 year old. Hes even said a few times when hes upset "why are you yelling at me" breaks my heart and stops me in my tracks...mind you he really does push our buttons and knows how to get a rise.
No advice but good on you for recognising it early! Im only starting to recognise it now, and ive already done a lot of the damage in making him worse with temper tantrums etc I never thought id be a mummy like this sometimes it is soo so testing though and i am the crankiest pregnant mummy
14-01-2014 16:03 #18
If my DS is doing something similar I count to 3 before I react and remind myself of his age. It sort of helps me to put myself in his shoes... Generally his tantrums are frustration related eg he wants to be so independent but isn't quite able to.
14-01-2014 16:10 #19
123 magic is great
if that fails, i try to step away from the situation for a moment (providing DD is safe or DH is home)
I have on a really bad case chucked us both in the shower (warm not cold) and we just sat in the bottom of the tub until she calmed down.
if all else fails .... why do we not have a wine symbol???
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