Thank you ladies, sometimes I feel like Iam being too judgemental of others but at the same time I don’t like wasting mybreath on people who say they want to change but never do anything. I think we have reached the final strawtoday. She’s trying to get pregnant with this guy because she’s decided since Ifell pregnant she is clucky. I don’t believe in trapping anybody with a childand think this is a very serious big mistake that you can’t take back. Myhusband and I cannot support her any further because she clearly isn’t listeningand her choices are becoming more reckless. I feel terrible that she has only startedtrying to get pregnant because of me and I don’t think I can look her in theeye and say I support her no matter what because I believe she’s being selfish.I will be contacting her tonight to let herknow that I need space as I think we are in very different places in our livesand as much as I want to help and support her I don’t believe going behind somebody's backand "accidentally" getting pregnant is mature or right. If she does turn up my husbandhas agreed to answer the door because he doesn’t think the stress of anargument is appropriate whilst I’m already pregnant and emotional. I hope I amdoing the right thing!
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13-01-2014 15:12 #11Senior Member
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13-01-2014 15:21 #12
I think you're doing the right thing, what a lousy situation to be put in.
13-01-2014 21:10 #13
Oh ****!! What is she like 14?!?
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14-01-2014 22:28 #15Senior Member
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Poor hubby got blind sided.. He received a couple of texts about trivial things from my friend & when he responded he got a call from her. He said I was sleeping but I could hear her saying I shouldnt be going on holiday & I was putting the baby at risk. Anything could happen & they wouldn't be able to save him etc. I'm so angry because my Ob cleared me & both my husband & I are comfortable with the decision which he did try to say but she insisted we are wrong.
She asked him if I was ACTUALLY happy that we were having a boy... Why would you say that?! Then she's buying all these things for the baby & getting organised ... I'm pretty sure I will get told what to dress him in if I let it go that far!
Told hubby to not respond from now on. It feels like she's trying to come between us or maybe I just have my guard up... Either way I think I really do need this bloody holiday!
15-01-2014 01:34 #16
Woah, definitely not to be trusted.
She is totally trying to cause trouble in your marriage, I would sever all times completely, zero contact, no replies, no answering the door, she sounds dangerous to be honest. I'm glad you got to hear what she said!
15-01-2014 07:52 #17
Wow she sounds pretty immature, full on and a control freak. I would stop contact with her if thats how shes acting and treating you and your DH. You guys don't need her stressing you guys out in your life, imagine what she'll be like once bubs is born!
15-01-2014 08:16 #18
Start ignoring texts or giving really short answers, letting calls go to voicemail etc. The cold shoulder should hopefully give her the hint.
The other option is to be upfront and cut her off outright, though that is much more confrontational.
Either way, I'd be distancing myself from this gal quick smart. She has so many traits that scream 'trouble' that I would just not want any part of it.
15-01-2014 09:14 #19
Two words: cut direct. As far as you are concerned, she will cease to exist. Ignore all texts, block calls if you can, if you see her, refuse to engage. She sounds like a bunny boiler!
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