I don't know what to say @Bluebirdgirl. Maybe sometimes it will hit you harder than others. Triggers for emotions, who can figure them out! If you're emotionally in a better place right now and looking forward to this new baby then maybe that's why you don't feel sad about your previous loss.
It's good to be focused on the new baby. That's certainly what I'm trying to do!
I'm feeling a little unsettled today. I ended up at the pregnancy observation unit yesterday for monitoring. I'd been to see my GD dr and my blood pressure was too high so she sent me off to the hospital for monitoring and testing. That completely freaked me out. Thankfully the urine/blood tests have come back normal (other than anaemia) and bub's heart rate and level of movement is good.
The dr had warned me about my blood pressure early on and that pre-eclampsia is a possibility. I worried about it a lot at the beginning of the pregnancy but since things have been going smoothly I'd just hoped/assumed that everything would be OK. My blood pressure has actually been good for months, up until yesterday. And I've been managing to keep my emotions in check up until now, thinking I have no reason/evidence that anything will go wrong and I should be able to deliver a healthy baby. But this threw me into a bit of a tailspin. It made me realise that everything is such a delicate balance. I have no idea why my BP was so high yesterday; I wasn't feeling stressed, actually quite calm but tired (who isn't?). I just have to keep telling myself I don't have long to go, we've come this far, I'll be closely monitored now and everything will be OK.
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29-07-2014 10:29 #771
29-07-2014 11:02 #772
Yeh @Cat74, it's been a strange journey for me. I guess because it was so not on the agenda and I have 5 kids already and thought we were done, it really took a bit to sink in. I felt such a hard time bonding to the baby to be and the idea of the baby, where as with my others I was immediately attached. I also had this sick feeling all along before it even happened that if I got pregnant a 6th time I would lose it. I had never had a mc before. Really weird and that's not something I've told anyone because it sounds so strange. It also makes me feel weird calling this baby my 6th, because she's my lucky 7th! But I know she's technically my 6th child, and in general not many understand counting in a mc.
If I had mc my first pregnancy I'm sure that I would have had much more attachment and felt much more sad forever really. Seems crappy and I will always acknowledge that we lost a child to be, but I realise because of my situation the impact on me is not as great as it is for other women.
Had I not been able to have another child at any point, I think it would have hurt a lot more too. Hope that makes some sense!
But I already felt incredibly blessed to have a family so anything more was always going to be a gift.
It's really good you are able to be monitored and taken care of. Hopefully it's just one of those little blips along the way and won't happen again.
My cousins daughter ended up with pre e with her son last year. I don't know how they missed any signs, but they didn't even realise she had pre e til after he was born! He was born at 35 weeks and was fine but gee she was so lucky and I was just amazed she didn't feel unwell.
Although I'm public and I think she was too and they don't even check your weight or urine at your appts these days. They seem to leave a lot up to the mother to report. Blood pressure is checked though so yeh strange her situation.
My bp has been low the whole pregnancy which is new for me. It usually stays the same. I've asked for IV fluids during labour this time because I fainted after my third when my bp, which was normal during labour, dropped suddenly.
had you been feeling any worse? It's hard to call sometimes isn't it and decide whether something is up or you're being pregnant crazy.
30-07-2014 10:40 #773
@Bluebirdgirl, wow your cousin's daughter was lucky, although 35 weeks is quite early. I think it's probably hard to determine sometimes what are normal pregnancy symptoms and what are things to be concerned about. My blood pressure has only been high since pregnancy before that I always erred on the low side. I felt absolutely fine on Monday, albeit tired because I hadn't had a great night's sleep. But that's par for the course during pregnancy and the tiredness could equally be because I'm now anaemic. I'm hoping that now I'm taking iron tablets I'll not feel as fatigued. I guess I just have to continue with my regular BP checks, be aware of the other symptoms that are pre-e indicators and report anything that's cause for concern.
30-07-2014 10:49 #774
My iron is always lower than it should be, its such a pain. I'm taking a high dose tablet and vitamin c and it still managed to drop lower at my last blood test. I don't eat meat, only fish and its been really hard eating iron rich food cos everything upsets my stomach!
When is your next appointment @Cat74
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30-07-2014 10:53 #775
@Bluebirdgirl, I had a growth and position scan yesterday and have the follow up with my OB tomorrow. It was really nice to see bubba again yesterday. His growth is good - 60th percentile - but he does have a really big head (like his Dad). I was going to put my hand up for a caesar anyway so that just reinforces my decision.
30-07-2014 11:02 #776
Oh nice! I'm going to ask about a growth scan at my next appointment in a week. I got one through public 8 years ago with my daughter but I don't think my chances are very good seeing as everything is going normally.
My 4th was 4.2kg, 5th was smaller at 3.8, but I'd kinda like to know if I'm in for a big one or not! He also had a big head and came out posterior. I guess my recovey was no worse but to have a rough idea would be nice.
You don't usually get those luxuries public.
I'm a bit worried that a scan will give me braxton hicks though, my uterus is super sensitive.
Probably considering all this for nothing though! Pretty sure I can't afford a scan out of pocket right now.
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30-07-2014 13:38 #777
Yep, OB wanted the scan early otherwise I would have had it at 35/36 weeks. It was $300! I did get about ⅔ back from Medicare but still all the baby expenses are adding up! And you're right about the BH. I had them for a little while afterwards. Had to come home and hop in a warm bath to settle them down. Bubba was pretty funny during the scan. He obviously didn't like the poking and prodding so he was poking and prodding back.
I think it's nice to know so you can mentally prepare yourself for what's ahead but the expense of it all does get you down.
30-07-2014 19:27 #778
Eek, my 35 week scan was only $190 and that was expensive enough and we got some back. I'm public, the dr was really easy to get the referral from but the sonographer (who is a specialist ob) was so quick, said heads big and belly is small fluid is normal and bubs in the ideal position and very happy. When I told her the stats for my dd she said yeah expect pretty much exactly the same. Makes me feel guilty hoping for bub to come slightly early since dd was 3.1kg at 8 days overdue and that was small enough.
Even though the pregnancy that ended in mc was very much planned and wanted, most of the time I don't dwell on it and it doesn't make me sad its just a part of our journey. I know the day before my scan I was saying to friends how anxious I was that we were going to get bad news at the scan, and as soon as the sonographer said that it was only measuring at 5.5 weeks not 8+ weeks I knew it was all over. I am very open about it and only a few times where it has hit me for a short time. I think it's so individual and we all have the right to deal with it how it suits us like any grief.
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31-07-2014 09:47 #779
I was wondering about asking my gp @Green Cheese. He's got me referred for all the other scans. Thing is by the time I might get in here it might be baby time. It's usually really busy. I will still look into it. The one I and at nearly 39 weeks with my daughter I never got the results of as she was born two days later!
I might have left it too late, but I'll still ask.
I had a bad feeling about my scan with the mmc too. I wasn't even going to have one til 18 wks, I didn't with my son before. But something kept nagging me I had to check. I should have went earlier, but wanted to wait as close to 12 wks as I could. It was really creepy because the receptionist at the radiology was all chatty to me and tried to talk me into going at 10 wks in case something was wrong, implying that the pregnancy might not be viable. I had never had anyone on reception talk to me past making appts before and it creeped me out at the time and really amazed me once we knew.
01-08-2014 09:15 #780
Not too long for most of you ladies now! Very jealous how are these last few weeks treating you?
I've been a bit quiet of late I've just been plodding along with 20 weeks in my sight (next Thursday) I had my morphology scan on Wednesday and it was all really great. It was such a relief as that's when we found out with DD2 about her having no amniotic fluid etc and ended up loosing her just before 20 weeks so this is a very anxious time for us all.
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