@Green Cheese, hope you're doing OK! I understand how you feel. I felt really out of sorts and upset earlier this year when our little bub would have been due. It was especially hard as friends of ours had their baby just a couple of weeks before. So there was joy for them but very much tainted by our own loss.
Mid-August is the anniversary of the miscarriage and I think I will probably struggle, even though at that point it will only be a month until this bubba is born. I still think about it all the time. It was something incredibly difficult to go through. I learned a lot about myself and realised that I needed to make some changes so that I had a bit more balance. The real positive that I can take away from it, and often the only thing that allows me to keep it together, is that the miscarriage brought a closeness in my relationship with DH that I never thought possible. He has been so protective of me and sensitive to my needs ever since and for that I am grateful. Although obviously I wish the circumstances had been very different.
I don't think anyone could possibly understand the emotional roller coaster of having a miscarriage unless they'd been through it themselves. It seems so unfair that it robs us of the joy of pregnancy. I never really imagined how much of an impact it would have until I started living it.
I've still got awhile until bubba is here (EDD 22 Sept) with us and, like you, I don't want to will the time away or have a premmie baby, but I would very much like it for him to be here, safe and sound.
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20-07-2014 11:15 #751
20-07-2014 11:43 #752
Feeling much better today thanks Cat. Overall mine was a very straight forward miscarriage and I didn't seem to be too affected at the time so it always comes as a bit of a shock to me when I have these moments around the significant dates. And even though I've always been very open with friends and family it is usually on my terms and when I'm feeling ok so they don't see those moments of breaking down. So that makes three of us all very similar timing of when our miscarriages were to due date. It's almost exactly 6 months between what my due date was to my current due date.
20-07-2014 17:57 #753
Oh same @Green Cheese my edd with the baby I lost was the day after my first child's birthday, February 12. So just over 6 months between that edd and this baby's.
I just bought pretty much all the things for the baby today. Car seat, bedding and all that. It's made it seem so much more real and kinda freaked me out.
I also saw a lot of little babies while we were out.
Anyone else get freaked out buying things? I am excited, just wish I felt more excited than wishing it was all done and she was a week old or something.
20-07-2014 19:45 #754
@Bluebirdgirl, I do. We bought our pram ages ago and more recently a change table and some clothes. We've also been given lots of hand-me-downs, which is great. But I keep having these fleeting thoughts about what I would do if something happened now and we didn't come home with a bub. What would I do with all this stuff? And how heartbreaking to have to deal with that. I just have to push it out of my mind and keep buying the stuff we need.
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20-07-2014 19:54 #755
@Cat74 it's awful hey. I have to stop thinking those things way more than I would like to. I think I've had silly thoughts with every pregnancy but it's been harder after the cm because you know that things can happen. The odds are very low but yeh.
I hope we all can put those things aside more as the dates get closer. I guess it's just hitting home I have a labour to go through mostly! And that there is actually a little person in my belly it's not just a moving basketball lol
20-07-2014 21:57 #756
20-07-2014 22:04 #757
Has anyone else around my gestation (35 weeks) started to lose their mucous plug? Sorry for tmi but I'm kinda freaking I may go early as the last three days I've been losing it! There is no blood though...
20-07-2014 22:13 #758
((Hugs)) @Colbie while I'm not at all glad anyone feels these things, it's comforting to have you ladies who understand, because I could never tell my family, they wouldn't understand.
As for the mucous plug, not lost anything this early no, but it is possible to lose it a couple of weeks before labour. Have your braxton hicks ramped up? More pressure pain? Could be baby engaging.
The earliest I lost anything was about 4 days before labour. I kept waiting for blood/pink with my last baby to know I was actually in labour, but it never had any! It out me in denial I was in labour til I hit transition. I know better this time!
20-07-2014 22:18 #759
Totally with you on feeling weird purchasing stuff, luckily we haven't had to buy much but we just moved dd into her new room today and will finish setting the nursery up and set up the bassinet in our room very soon. I'm a bit scared about doing it though.
Colbie I know they say the plug regenerates so its not necessarily a sign that labour will be too quick to follow but good luck.
21-07-2014 06:55 #760
Thank you so much for being here!
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