Thought I would start a support thread for those who are pregnant after a miscarriage like myself. I'm finding it much harder than I expected with a whole range of emotions and I'm sure I'm not alone.
I had a natural miscarriage six months ago, we went in for our 8 week dating scan and she could only see a yolk and sac. While officially the sonographer wrote it off as too early(about 5-6 weeks) knowing that it was over 4 weeks past a positive pregnancy test I knew immediately the writing was on the wall. I had been super anxious for days leading up to the scan and then my worst fears were confirmed. I was very lucky though that I then miscarried naturally that night and next day.
So now here I am, tomorrow is 4 weeks since I got my bfp, scan is on Wed 15th and I am terrified that its all going to happen again. I'm also worried that all going well the fact that I'm in total denial until I see a heartbeat will affect me actually bonding with this baby.
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10-01-2014 08:28 #1
Pregnant after miscarriage
10-01-2014 10:10 #2
Subbing - thanks for starting this up! Wasn't going to post in the other support thread for fear of upsetting someone - felt like I would continually have to censor myself when posting publicly.
Supposed to be working so I'll post again soon xx
10-01-2014 11:06 #3
Thanks Green cheese -glad to see other people still want to talk and support each other post re-conception. Will just have to continue PMing the other ladies.
This will have to be short as munchkins need lunch.
Green Cheese - I hope you get a happy ending this time and a nice healthy heart beat. With our last loss the size was out by a week and I told the sonographer this and was ignored - the baby went on to get a heart beat and could have been saved.
LD - not long til morph scan! Don't worry about movements at this stage. Best way of telling viability is still by scan. Some dopplers from 16 weeks can pick up heart beat.
Well - it has been 1 week since our appt and we still have 2.5 weeks to go until we know if bub has made it through us stopping the medications that were keeping the blood vessels open. Hoping the bleeding has stopped but it's not external so I can't tell. Just having a couple of home days, but still have to lift pram and kids to go grocery shopping which I hate at the moment knowing what it could do if I haven't stopped bleeding.
Praying for speedy, healthy pregnancies and babies.
10-01-2014 11:34 #4
Green cheese great idea to start up this thread... I hope you don't mind me joining in as our little girl was born still at 26w.
Being pregnant again, I felt it very difficult to bond and feel excited about this baby growing inside me too.
It took until I was able to feel some strong kicks for it to start to sink in... So we are talking about 23 weeks maybe before I started to feel any connection... And even then, I think I somewhat distance myself for the just in case...
I said to DH that he doesn't often reach over for a feel when I say that bubs is kicking... And he said that it's because whenever he does, bubs just stops. I'm really worried that it's his way of distancing himself to try not be as hurt if something goes wrong as well...
It's really a hard situation...
I even have some troubles referring to this baby by the nickname we have chosen for it, Skittle, as if naming the baby is getting closer or something....
Anyways, I don't mean to offload all of this onto you guys...
Oh and I should've said at the beginning a big well done to you all because getting pregnant after a loss can be very emotionally draining....
And it can be a very emotionally draining experience, the actual being pregnant again, but in my experience, there was not much that could have stopped Skye passing, so I try to keep as positive as I can for the sake of this baby Skittle growing rapidly inside me...
Feel free to tell me to go away if my experience differs too much from what you are wanting from this thread too, I won't be offended!
Skittle due 07/04/2014
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10-01-2014 12:03 #5
Thank you for starting this thread!
We had a early miscarriage a few months ago and now I'm around 5weeks pregnant and very excited but frightened!
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10-01-2014 12:05 #6
Oh munchkin I think you're welcome in here, I know that my journey has been so much less traumatic than a lot of others so a range of experience is helpful.
My husband is very distanced from this pregnancy too, he said he's trying not to plan any further than the first scan at this stage. I'm lucky to have an almost 2yo dd and I just wish we could have the excitement we had with her pregnancy rather than the fear.
10-01-2014 12:05 #7
Munch and LT - good to see you both here! Munchkin you are not going ANYWHERE! That's an order xx
10-01-2014 12:08 #8
Little Ted, that sounds like a stressful pregnancy. How far along are you. Fx bub is cooking along nicely.
10-01-2014 13:17 #9
Hi munchkin! Hi misssparkles!
Now 13w4d thank you Green Cheese - the baby was so healthy last week and literally bouncing. Pity we couldn't go surrogate! I think this might be the most crucial time for it, even though it is possible we could lose it later also.
I hear what you are saying ladies - the pregnancy loses its innocence. One worries about every cramp and niggle. I borrowed some baby name books from the library but can't bring myself to read through them yet. Whilst I am very thankful we fell quickly this time (but with help), if I could where a moo moo and hide for the next 6 months I would. No I don't want to tell anyone and if I could ignore my situation I would. My worry is that we had to tell the kids this time.
Munch - when we got the positive for this one and the last one, DH wasn't excited and keeps on trying to keep me real if I start to plan ahead, even though he really wants the baby he sees how hard I fall each time and it upsets him too.
People have started commenting in the shops now - "You have your hands full" as if it is a bad thing, but we love our kids and the joy they bring to our lives and yes, we ended up deciding on trying for a fourth which hasn't worked out so well. This is our last try - there is a point.
Munch - if you don't belong then perhaps I wouldn't either! I think some people see the 3 children in my sig and think that they've happened post mc's and not the other way around.
Most of all I'm looking forward to moving on, getting my groove back on and being a fun and energetic mum again. Pooh to PND.
10-01-2014 13:20 #10
Hello girls, I'm joining so I can keep up to date with you and also with the intention of joining ASAP!!! Good luck to you all with your pregnancies
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