I'm 5 months pregnant with my second son. We decided to find out the gender this time round and thrilled that its a healthy boy. We decided to tell the rest of the family over christmas that its another boy and i was totally shocked by some of their reactions! one aunty said ''Oh that's shame, a girl would have been so lovely, never mind, third time lucky?'' another uncle said ''i guess you'll be trying for a third then soon?'' I couldn't believe the reactions we were getting and wished we'd not even told them! Why not be pleased that we were able to have another baby rather than focusing solely on the sex of it??
Has anyone else experienced this?
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29-12-2013 14:15 #1Senior Member
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Anyone else experienced this over baby's gender?
29-12-2013 14:23 #2
It is for that reason, when we found out we were having a second girl, we told nobody. Before we found out everyone said 'I bet you want a boy' and 'I hope you don't get another girl'.
I love having two kids the same gender, obviously I know no different and I ignore the people who plead for us to have a son - we don't want more kids.
29-12-2013 14:27 #3
I have found a lot of people like people to have the pigeon pair. If i have another child, i would love for another boy.
Congrats on your second blue bundle and try and ignore all the negative nancys as much as possible.
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29-12-2013 14:31 #4
Yes unfortunately Ds2 is 5 months old and my inlaws still carry on about him being our second boy. Mil said to him the other day "you should have been a girl". Mil also shares photos of pretty dresses on fb and says "I wish I had a girl to dress" yeah because boys don't need clothes When we told them we were having another boy the first thing mil and sil text back was "damn we need a girl". When I had ds2 they said they weren't coming to the hospital for a visit because they were having a family bbq Dh bawled his eyes out I was so mad. I said to dh I bet if we had a girl they would have been waiting outside the delivery room.
I try to not let it get to me because I love having two boys and my family adores them but gosh Its hard with some of the **** they say. Im pregnant with our third and to be honest it makes me feel sick at how they will react when they find out wether Its another boy. Im sorry no advice but you aren't alone
Last edited by Purple Lily; 29-12-2013 at 14:47.
29-12-2013 14:41 #5
Yes. We got this and it was heartbreaking. I decided not to tell the rest of my family that we were having a second (healthy, perfect, beautiful!) little girl and told people that we didn't know the sex. I just couldn't handle the "Oh, what a shame!" Comments.
We still get people asking when we'll be having a third, just to give dh a son. They just assume we're disappointed with two girls for some reason.
29-12-2013 15:19 #6
Oh yes, I got this with my third boy, it broke my heart too. He only has a couple of birth cards where the other 2 boys have trillions ( DS2 was 8 weeks prem so he got showered in cards etc or I'm sure he would have gotten ' the oh what a shame comments as well)
People can be unthinking *****.
29-12-2013 15:27 #7
With our second we found out the gender but feigned stupidity to avoid comments like those above. By the time DS2 was born everyone just fell in love with him and it wasn't an issue.
In saying this I still got the odd comment about being disappointed or next time I'll be lucky but I would just think to myself why the hell would I be disappointed?!? I got a perfectly healthy baby boy so many others aren't so lucky.
We are just starting to TTC # 3 and tbh I'm dreading the "oh you'll have to have a girl this time" comments. Sure I'd love a girl but if blue is for me then I'll be happy with that!
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29-12-2013 16:29 #10
I'm still a week away from finding out if we've got a boy or girl but I get so annoyed when people presume I want a girl. I actually think we're going to have another boy, and I feel like I need to defend him already! I understand that gender disappointment is very real for some people, but to be honest it offends me that people think I only want a girl and will be disappointed with a boy, because that is not the case!
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