I just wondered if anyone is in the same boat as me...
My 13 month old son seems to be weaning himself from being breastfed, he's basically just not wanting to feed any more. It's happened so quick! He went from 4 feeds a day just a couple of weeks ago to nothing :-(
Everyone told me that I'd feel so great once he weaned, that I would finally 'have my body back.'
Instead I am filled with an overwhelming sadness. I feel like our close bond will no longer be there. He is super attached to my DH, and I am imagining that that will just increase now he is no longer bf.
I am just sad :-( Surely I am not the only mummy to feel like this. Unfortunately I don't have any bf friends so it's hard to explain or talk about it.
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23-12-2013 22:17 #1
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23-12-2013 22:56 #2
My DD just suddenly refused a feed one night and that was that she wouldn't take it again and I felt so sad that our breastfeeding journey was over. I never felt that my body wasn't my own so I didn't feel the need to have it back. I really did mourn the loss of our bfing relationship, but that said she was still super snuggly and still came to me for comfort. I just found I was nurturing her in lots of other ways.
Sorry that it ended before you were ready.
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23-12-2013 23:33 #3
I could have written that post myself when at 12 months DD weaned herself (actually I probably did write something similar)
I felt so sad and it felt so unexpected and sudden... I kept thinking I didn't even know that was my last fees
She's now 20 months old and I don't feel that way anymore, we have discovered new activities that we do together and mum is mum no one can replace you!
Honestly the best advice I got in this situation was when someone told me that I must have done something right and met all her needs for DD to be weaning herself without issues so I think you did right by your DS and he's developing independence as he should.
Try to find things to do together you and him to continue bonding.
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24-12-2013 05:23 #4-
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My boy weaned himself just before the 2 year mark. At first I was a little upset (wanted to reach that benchmark). Then after a week or so I became really proud... My boy was turning into a little man who is now capable of saying what he does or doesn't want. It's a sign he is growing up
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24-12-2013 06:14 #5
I just weaned my baby at 12 months, but she was showing signs before this and really not interested in feeding. She hasn't even looked for it. I started a thread last week. I felt really sad. I still do a bit. But I am proud as well.
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24-12-2013 06:29 #6
DD self weaned at 12-13mths. I still feel a bit sad that she stopped & having lost a lot of supply in the last month didn't help. DD just wanted to feed herself & I'm proud of that - still get heaps of cuddles!
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24-12-2013 07:03 #7Senior Member
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there is so much you can do to have a relationship with your son... hes growing up which is a good thing.. have fun and embrace the next phase of his life....
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24-12-2013 07:13 #8Senior Member
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Is it possible that you are pregnant? Baby changing feeding habits is often the first sign of pregnancy.
My 2nd weaned when i wasn't ready, and i felt her was too young, and was quite sad about it for a few months.
However, sometimes kids also go through periods of wanting less feeds, and then will increase feeds again, so if you are still keen keep offering and just see what happens.
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24-12-2013 08:20 #9
Thanks everyone, glad to see I'm not the only one. I guess I just didn't expect that he would wean himself! He's always been so keen on bf.
Definitely not pregnant!! Unless it's the immaculate conception ;-)
I keep telling myself that I should be proud that I bf for so long, but you are all right, it's a sign of growing up. Maybe that's actually why I'm sad.
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