Sorry I'm not sure if this is the right spot to post.
Last week my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer that has spread to her liver and bones. This has come as a complete shock as she is only 51 and has never had any illnesses before and breast cancer does not run in my family.
I am very reliant on my mother for everything, she is my best friend and we do things (shopping, hanging out ect.) 3-4 times per week. She is also the head of the family and organises lunches for birthdays, hosts christmas and has my sister, her boyfriend, my brother and my dad still living at home and does everything for them as well.
If anyone ever has a problem they go to her.
My daughters (3.5yrs, 14 months) both idolize her and are extremely close to her.
I just feel lost and don't know what to do. I cry over everything since finding out but have to hide this from my girls.
My oldest knew that her nana was sick in hospital however now she thinks she is better.
I don't know what to tell her or how to help my mum. I feel so selfish, all I can think about is losing my mum even though she is still here.
Can anyone offer advice or experience with this kind of situation. I am at an absolute loss.
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25-11-2013 13:48 #1Senior Member
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25-11-2013 13:50 #2
I can't offer advice etc but just wanted to offer you hugs xx
I'm so sorry that your family is going through this.
25-11-2013 13:54 #3
hi jascar, so sorry for you. This is just enormous news to process, life changing in every way. Really, there is no guidelines for this, no advice to give you. Take each day as it comes, let whatever emotions come and go. Everyone will have to make adjustments and changes in the most basic things. Hugs to you and your family.
God bless to your mum. Marie
25-11-2013 13:57 #4Senior Member
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Jascar. I'm sorry if this isn't welcome as my mum's cancer is different, still a hormonal one - endometrial. It has also spread to her liver and one of the tumors is still growing despite 'treatment'. She had it first 13 years ago and has lived a normal life since until it spread to her liver but it is suspected she had it the entire time.
She is also my best friend and I am really freaked out at the thought of not having her. I hate that this has happened to her and I feel so much anger and bitterness at the medical staff and system who were meant to help her.
I haven't got much practical advice as I am also extremely afraid but I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone x
25-11-2013 14:24 #5Senior Member
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That's for your support. I hate the uncertainty and that my daughters won't have their nana there like i've had mine. We have always talked about how great it was that she is a young nana and she can do things for my children she couldn't if she were older. I also feel so sad that she has to go through this and I cannot do anything to help her.
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