It's up to you how you strongly you feel about the bedtime. Just some ideas...
You could give her the option of reading quietly until she's sleepy (or some other agreed-upon activity) - she might feel that she has some control over it, which is what I find my 3 yo really wants most of the time.
Otherwise, maybe try to just keep calmly but firmly putting her back to bed, no fuss, no smack, no arguments. Just keep it boring and unemotional. If she's doing it for attention or a reaction, don't give her one. You'll probably have to do it a thousand times but it might do the trick! Also, make sure she's getting enough time/attention from you during the day.
Or you could use some kind of reward system - this usually works well with my 3 yo. You can discuss it with her during the day, that it would be really great if she could stay in bed and make a chart so that after a certain number of nights where she stays in bed she can get a special treat.
These are only some suggestions, as it really depends on what might work with your DD's personality. Good luck
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21-11-2013 20:52 #11
21-11-2013 20:53 #12
I think I would try dropping the day sleep and moving bedtime back to 6.30/7pm with some quiet time in the afternoon for quiet pursuits - stories on her bed with you, sticker book etc
Perhaps try a sticker chart and start small to start with - 3 nts staying in her bed and 3 stickers in a row means a small but desirable reward and gradually increase that time perhaps.
The smacking sounds like it's not much fun all round and probably not a nice way to finish off the day for anyone and it doesn't seem to be having the desired effect anyway so maybe ditch that for now?
21-11-2013 20:55 #13
(we've just moved to Melbourne so my kids are still adjusting to daylight savings time so at 9:30 here and they'd just gone to sleep.)
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21-11-2013 20:58 #14
Stay next to her in bed until she's asleep
21-11-2013 20:59 #15
And I would also drop the nap and move bedtime to 6:30
21-11-2013 21:01 #16
I agree on dropping the day sleep and having her in bed by 7. When DS has a day sleep he farts around until about 9, he has a torch in his room and will look at books or whatever. He does not run in and out or muck about though which would be frustrating. It really sounds as though she is not tired.
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21-11-2013 21:07 #17
Yeah she stays in her room but sits in the doorway, her room is next to our family room and we are usually in there ourselves so see her straight away.
Will drop the day nap i think unless we have had a big day and she seems really tired and then limit it to an hour in the early afternoon like a pp said.
Then pull her bedtime back to 6:30
Seem like such practical suggestions but when your tired and frustrated you dont always see things very clearly.
Thanks so much for the helpful, non judgemental replies x
21-11-2013 21:18 #18
My friend wrapped a present & put it high up on a shelf where her DD could see it but not reach it, she then explained if she did xyz for 5 days in a row she would get the present.
She does it for every behavior she wants changed (dummies, sleep, dry nights etc), it works every time.
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I definitely agree with dropping or limiting the day nap. I started doing this with mine when they were about 2.5/3 and they initially did still have a nap some days but they eventually could get through to bed time which is 6.30pm.
Good luck -it's soooo bloody frustrating when they won't go down at night!
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