Really struggling with this one. My husband was due home tonight but now has to work another 7 days so his roster will now be changed and he is going to miss our antenatal class.
I opted to do the all day class so we could only go once.
I'm feeling like I'm on my own here, what happens at the classes, what do u learn? I know I'm going to be the only person who doesn't have a partner there, mum is not around and I don't know about friends, it's awkward to ask.
Is he going to miss anything? Is he not being there going to make it harder at birth time? I dont know but I am stressing out about it now.
Did anyone go alone? Or would you of preferred to? All comments welcome.
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19-11-2013 20:14 #1
Antenatal Class - flying solo??
19-11-2013 21:17 #2
19-11-2013 21:42 #3
I went on my own because DP was working. It was a good day. There were two other ladies who didn't have partners, so it was nice to no be alone. The midwife who facilitated was great. Go, have fun, learn lots
DP wasn't disadvantaged, in labour, the middie suggested ways he could support me, some which they didn't go through in class. He'll be fine
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19-11-2013 21:57 #4
One of the women in my classes came alone. I have no doubt it didn't feel great but everyone was very welcoming of her.
19-11-2013 22:16 #5Senior Member
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They touch on all sorts of bits and pieces at antenatal class to try and make it not all seem so daunting. Ours was at the hospital we birthed at. We were given a tour of the birth suites, discussed pain relief options and what to expect in labour, csections, watched some videos on labour and breastfeeding, practiced putting nappies on and wrapping pretend babies etc. There was a girl in my class whose hubby was going to be overseas until close to the birth date. She brought a friend along for support to some classes but came alone to others. It's a supportive environment and it didn't matter. Lots of people hadn't changed a nappy before. I'd suggest you go even if hubby can't so that you can settle some of your worries. Maybe hubby could read some bits from books such as 'what to expect...' or Kaz Cooke's 'Up the Duff' if you want him to understand more about the labour stuff. For looking after a newborn I found 'Babylove' invaluable. As long as you and hubby talk about your worries and birth preferences etc then you'll be fine. His job at the birth is to support you and you won't really know what you want from him until you are in labour anyway. Midwives during and after the birth are usually a fantastic help- you are expected to be shell shocked and little lost at first.
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20-11-2013 11:06 #6Junior Member
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I am doing 5 evening classes (so a bit different) and have been to one so far. I am going by myself as my husband is overseas till 2 weeks before birth so can't join me.
My sister in law offered to come with me, but i preferred to go by myself. I felt a bit anxious prior that I would be the odd one out, but really it was absolutely fine. There was another lady there also by herself, and the setting (public hospy) was relaxed and informal. So far there has been no "couple" activities just some practice nappy and wrapping techniques on dolls and lots of info on breast feeding.
I found it reassuring that most of what was said was very familiar so I recommend you go to help with any anxiety you have about how little you know. You can always leave if you feel uncomfortable at any point. I figured i wouldn't regret giving it a go but might regret it if i chickened out.
26-11-2013 13:30 #7
Im a single mum so i went alone. I didnt feel awkward. Your all there for the same reason.
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