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18-11-2013 22:37 #21
18-11-2013 22:42 #22
However It really does suck when you want to be at home and cant for financial reasons, so I think you are doing an amazing thing just by doing what is best for your family
19-11-2013 02:42 #23
I liked the article. And I agree with her. I think it is time to drop the slogan. And I think perhaps that posters have focussed too much on the first line and paid scant regard to what she's actually saying about motherhood?
Because I found it to be actually quite positive and I don't understand how the thread has morphed into defending one's right to stay at home and raise your kids. The article isn't about that nor does it slam that. It's about putting parenthood into perspective. I remember an article she wrote a while back about the Catherine Deveney scandal which was really well written and also when Penny Wong's partner announced her pregnancy about the problems of a fatherless society and I found that to be thought provoking too.
If I may say this without being forked is that people could perhaps read rather than read into what is being written.
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19-11-2013 08:12 #24
You rarely see comments from working parents about how they choose to work for reasons OTHER than financial, and I think it's because they feel they would get shot down. Examples being I want to be a good role model and believe that to be in work is better than to be out of work, I don't want to be solely dependant on another, I don't want years out of the workforce because I will probably struggle to have a meaningful career, I don't think a child needs to be or should be with a parent 24/7, I want to contribute to a wider society outside of my own family unit, etc.
I am NOT saying that any of the reasons above are more valid than another parents reasons to stay home, not would they even apply to lots of people, but they are true and valid for many. It's just that it's a minority group on the Hub. Which is fine.
SAHPs are somewhat revered on here, I feel. But it is a parenting website after all!
19-11-2013 08:31 #25
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I see the article as being just another article to try and increase the divide between SAHP and working parents. And reading some responses here, it is working.
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19-11-2013 08:36 #27
I stand by my comment that we should have the right to choose our roles in society (I don't want to see either working or stay at home mums feeling judged for their choice, no matter why they made it). Both roles are important, and it's such a highly personal choice.
It's funny but as a stay at home mum you do cop a fair bit of judgement as well, even here. I've often felt that working mums are held up to be the ideal here on the hub lol. I guess it's just one of those situations where the grass looks greener on the other side.
19-11-2013 08:37 #28
19-11-2013 08:42 #29
19-11-2013 08:46 #30
The word bitter comes to mind. And I do think it was a stab (yet again) at SAHM's since she talks several times about unpaid labour of child raising and " It only encourages mothers to stay socially and financially hobbled". Clearly directed at those at home.
The article doesn't surprise me in the least.
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