I would never take sperm from someone without their prior consent. Violation IMO.
ExDH and I still have a frozen embryo from when we had to undergo IVF with DS1. We had to sign forms at the time, stating what we would like to happen to it in the event of one of us dying. We both agreed the other could use it, to help provide a full blood sibling to DS1 if we chose to. This was of course assuming we were still married!
I highly doubt a doctor would remove sperm from a man without prior consent. Can this really happen?! What happens to his family with visitation and access etc very messy situation,
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17-11-2013 12:36 #54Originally Posted by BettyW Fair enough -- I don't know what that's like. What are your thoughts on anonymous sperm donation where a child will never know a father?
In relation to donated organs, for me it's a case of prolonging a life already in existence as opposed to attempting to create one from scratch. It's a totally different scenario that bears no semblance to what is being discussed here.
And not to take away from those who undertake IVF because I understand this is an accepted practice but does anyone else find the concept of embryos on ice abhorrent? I find it mind blowing that we are so comfortable with technology we don't understand but are so used to now that we think putting a life on ice is normal. A relative of mine, when she was done with IVF, signed her embryos over to research. Does this not strike anyone as being horrific? Again, to those quick to attack or think that this is solely about them, it's not - this is just a question. I think discussion about these issues should be more widespread.
17-11-2013 12:42 #55Senior Member
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This is a very sad story. I know the deceased man and his death was tragic. Apparently it was something he would wanted for his wife as they had been undergoing fertility treatment.
Each to their own.
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17-11-2013 12:49 #56
You can find examples here and here and discussion of ethical use here.
For those posting how sperm can be extracted from a dead man, it's done when the man is legally brain dead or while he's still "fresh". Doctors usually make a small incision in the vas deferens, where sperm is stored, and extract the sperm-containing fluid. Single sperm are then isolated and injected directly into the egg so as to preserve the sperm they have been able to collect.
While I understand how people would put two and two together (eg. wife + husband + good r'ship = would have wanted babies), this doesn't mean the dead person would have given permission. It's simply what you would have wanted. What if the dead man had specific wants regarding who raised his child? Where they went to school? What he would want them to know about him? And what about the woman, unable to let go? Unable to move on because she's hanging onto a fantastical notion that in her child created with posthumously harvested sperm that this child was created in love and carries on its father's memory? And in doing so, hampering her chances of having another meaningful relationship whereby she could fully move on, embrace another and begin a family with a man who is living and fully consensual. What of this? Again, only more questions.
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17-11-2013 14:19 #58Senior Member
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I dont know. Its pretty arogant view on my part I guess. But its one thing to say your father passed before you were born but another to say my father passed before I was conceived. For me I think as other pp suggested it opens up more questions than answers.
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If we were going through ivf before he passed, then I would possibly still go ahead with it. But if it meant having to actually have sperm taken after he died, I wouldn't even consider it.
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