I am wondering how common it is to openly tell someone you barely know that you hit, yell, swear, smack your kids.....then feel guilty about it.
I am worried this mother has huge issues, but i dont want to upset her. I am worried for her kids, but i dont want to get involved.
I feel she is a very angry person, and needs find a way to manage her feelings.
But who am i to say all this to her? She obviously trusted me enough to tell me how she honestly discapline's her children....and i saw it for myself when she death stared her 4yr old and dragged her across the plagroup room to the corner for 'time out' because she kept taking a toy off her younger brother.........
........................or is this a cry for help?
She's a mother of 3, her third bub is only a few weeks old, so sleep depriation may play a big part, but still, it made me sick to the stomach, and probably everyone else in the room to watch her treat her 4yr old this way.
What do you do? i am trying to get closer to her to understand her a little more. Her dh is away a fair bit for work. I honestly think she's struggling, even though when i ask how things are she tells me "really, really, good!" and smiles......
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11-11-2013 13:48 #1Senior Member
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11-11-2013 14:21 #2Senior Member
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Well if shes that open around someone she barely knows I hate to think what goes on when you get to know her.
Could be a cry for help. Ive never been there so I dont know how id react. Sleep dep and 2 kids ive done. Sleep dep and 3 im about too! Hubby being away done that too but never acted like you describe. But who knows what's going on with her so it would be unfair to judge.
Yeah get to know her better youll soon find out if alarm bells ring.
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11-11-2013 14:47 #3
If you dont want to get involved then dont?
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If your gut is telling you to get involved then do... Her kids well being could be at risk.
You could try something not too invasive first.. Such as "how are things going, do you need a hand or anything?" And go from there, follow her lead. Until you get more evidence (there may be a point past which you may need to report her actions).
11-11-2013 17:08 #5
This all sounds like someone I know- the struggling, the cry for help, and the 'everything's fine' bright smiles. It's like they're two different people (or three or four)- constantly switching between facades. Honestly OP, you can try but don't get too emotionally invested. There's only so many times you can reach out to someone. If she keeps insisting she is fine all you can do really is keep an eye on her and if you see anything suspicious report her. It doesn't matter if she's struggling, if she is behaving like that and not admitting to needing help then she may need professionals to intervene.
11-11-2013 17:11 #6
She clearly isn't coping very well, and is telling you as much. I'd jump in till she tells you to nick off! Why not- could really help her and will definitely help her kids! At least on this occasion she started it. She came to you and told you what is happening- it isn't like you'd be some judgemental nosy parker putting their two cents in where it isn't welcome???
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