Just a spin of from the santa thread. For those who arent religious what do you tell your kids about xmas?
I dont believe in god (in fact i have very strong opinions about god) but have still told my children than xmas is the day we celebrate the birth of jesus. Its is a religious holiday after all.
I explain that while mummy doesnt believe in god, it is part of our history and some people believe in god. I explain that xmas is a special time for family and giving gifts (like people gave to baby jesus).
I want my children to know the real meaning of xmas, regardless on what i believe.
Isnt it wrong to celebrate xmas without mentioning the real meaning???
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11-11-2013 09:42 #1Senior Member
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*spin off* for those who arent religious what do you tell your kids about xmas?
11-11-2013 09:48 #2
I don't think it's wrong to celebrate without talking about the Christian meaning. The Christian meaning is not the 'real' meaning of Christmas- it was appropriated by Christians and has now been appropriated by non-Christians in turn. We will be letting MIL explain the Christian meaning of Christmas to the kids- we take them to her church's Christmas Eve service and concert, and DS enjoys the nativity play. We will answer his questions as he has them.
11-11-2013 09:54 #3
As an atheist household, we don't celebrate xmas in a religious manner. We are teaching our children, that for our family, xmas is a time for being together with those we love, for spending time together, slowing down, enjoy each others company, and sharing gifts with those we love to say thankyou for being awesome.
We have told them, that everyone celebrates differently, and that xmas means different things to different people. That for some it is about the birth of a man named Jesus etc and we tell the story of Saint Nicholas.
But I think we should keep in mind, that xmas celebrations actually started as a pagan tradition, not a christian one, and then it's just been commercialised from there. So really, I don't see anything 'wrong' with celebrating xmas but not religion.
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11-11-2013 10:19 #5Senior Member
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We celebrate Christmas and our children believe in santa.
But our 6 year dd is dtarting to ask questions around god and jesus. Both dh and I are atheists, however dh was raised in a baptist home and attended church every sunday and sunday school so his knowledge is vast. We tell dd the truth and the stories of the bible as she asks. We let her know that this is what "some" people believe. We also tell her what we believe as in theory of evolution and what not and stress to her age appropriately of of course that she can make up.her own mind. We just think education is key we dont squash others beliefs but we think our kids need to be educated on both sides to make up their own minds. I still ticked the box at school for her to be part of religious instruction and will encourage her to discuss it with us.
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11-11-2013 10:38 #6
I explain it all, as much asi can/they understand
That it was a pagan midwinter celebration that was used as the birthdate of jesus so that the christians and the pagans could 'celebrate together' (the eight year old gets this explained better, but thats enough for the three year old imo), and that toy companies used the name/face of a saint who was a very good man, from a few hundred years ago, to convince us all that we need to spend lots of money on toys.
We celebrate st nicks day separately as well though :-)
Mostly i emphasise its a day for family.
11-11-2013 10:51 #7
Even though my family is catholic we don't celebrate it as the birth of Christ. For us it's a time to be together as a family, and enjoying being together as it doesn't happen very often.
DH has never followed any religion so his view on Xmas is the same as mine in that its a time for family.
Having said that, when our oldest started asking questions (learning about it through daycare etc), we told her some people believe its a time to celebrate the birth of Jesus etc. Now she is at a catholic school she is learning about it more.
We believe that our kids can celebrate it for whatever reason they wish- and we try to teach them that everyone celebrates it for a different reason and some people don't celebrate it at all. There is no right or wrong reason or way to celebrate it.
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11-11-2013 11:23 #8Senior Member
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We aren't a religious household, but we tell them Christ was real and it was the day he was born, that he is important to the Christian faith and that is how Christmas as we know it started etc. We also tell them about St Nicholas and also how the other traditions evolved, like German's starting the Christmas tree tradition.
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11-11-2013 11:52 #10Senior Member
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Mine really hasn't asked and doesn't really think anything of it. Unfortunately, regarding religion I haven't been able to raise him the way I wanted to and let him genuinely choose his own beliefs thanks to my DP's grandmother (who tells him Christmas is 'about the baby' and gives him ridiculous presents like nativity sets) and his teacher who tells him bad people go to hell. He has proclaimed that he 'believes in God'. IMO at 7 he is way too young to know what his 'faith' is. Especially since he comes from a non-religious household who intended for him to make up his own mind when he is old enough.
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