So it looks like separation and divorce may be in my near future.
I'm devastated that my marriage has turned out the way it has, but I feel I need to prepare for what may be ahead.
I would love to know peoples experiences with separations to divorces- paperwork, emotions, court, kids etc.
+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 6 of 6
08-11-2013 17:25 #1
Separation to divorce process?
08-11-2013 17:27 #2
Sorry if this is in the wrong area, feel free to move if so mods.
08-11-2013 18:25 #3Senior Member
- Join Date
- Feb 2012
- Brisbane North
bumping for you.
08-11-2013 19:14 #4
I seperated from my x-husband when my DS was 8 weeks old, 2009. I put through the paperwork for a divorce in 2010. Went to family court website and got the forms from there.
So for my DS, he didn't know any different of his Dad not living with us.
We moved to my parents and lived with them while I was on maternity leave.
His father and I just worked out when he could meet up and see us. Basically for his first 13mths he saw his father with me there. Just made it easier for my son. Then once I moved back to go back to work we just worked out the weekend days per term when DS had his visit with his father. Worked out best for us both as his father worked some Saturdays and then had car events to go to and went to car swap meets and garage sales to sell stuff.
His father moved to VIC in February 2012 so now it's Skype or phone calls and his father has visited 3 times since moved down there until now.
Single mummy to a wonderful DS (Born 11/12/2008)
08-11-2013 21:11 #5
Work out a patenting plan while you are on good terms and get him to sign it.
Things can change quickly, and the guy you thought would never do X, may end up doing the whole alphabet of ******* stuff.
13-11-2013 18:49 #6Junior Member
- Join Date
- Jul 2012
I'm going through this process at the moment
We went through lawyers to get parenting orders done. This involved making consent orders which outlined all our financial separation, and additional documentation regarding custody arrangements. If you just go through the divorce, it becomes a 50/50 split of everything. But apparently if kids are involved, the courts like to know what is happening with kids.
We have filed the consent orders with the court, then once they are through we can file for divorce
Get parenting orders done ASAP. My lawyer said to make them as specific as possible. She said that once you have written it, read it and make sure your ex can't screw you over with it. Pretend to be your ex and look for any loopholes in it that can be used to make your like hell, then change it. It really opened my eyes and I changed a tonne in my orders. Mine ended up being 14pages long they are so specific!
Also you have to be separated for a year before you can file for divorce
Another thing, if possible, get your ex to file all the paperwork. This means he has to pay for all the lodging fees etc. I also got my ex to get his lawyer to type up all the consent orders and then I just went over them myself and got my lawyer involved sparingly. Saved me a tonne of money! Laywer fees add up really quickly!
Hope this helps!
SoftmatsSoftmats specialises in safe, non-toxic, and durable play mats. The international Premium Dwinguler™ Play Mats and ...
LATESTWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?7 ways to break the ‘mumnotony’ at homeGuide to government family benefit payments
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
How long would you leave your 8 (almost 9) year old at home alone?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
Would you breastfeed in public?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
2.5yo hitting/pushing (possible ASD)Discipline & behaviour
A - Z of baby girl namesGames & fun stuff
Show me your lunchbox 2017!!Recipes & Lunchbox Ideas
Adelaide Hubbers #2Adelaide
The Not So Serious Vent Thread #7General Chat