DD spends every other xmas at her dad, 800km away. So 1 yr is awesome, the next sucks. This yr its my turn to have an awesome yr, AND my baby is due xmas eve so hopefully DD will get to meet her sister before she's gone for 21 days.
I understand how crappy those other yrs are though, theres nothing so empty
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06-11-2013 13:00 #21
06-11-2013 14:36 #22
I'm not jealous of their relationship in the slightest though. I'm really not - I'm quite happy to have them both out of my personal life... It's just my boys spending Christmas with her that bothers me. Actually it's them spending christmas with anyone but me really. Her with my ex has not emotional affect on me whatsoever.
I don't even need them to be unhappy. Apart from the obvious my exH is actually quite a nice person so I don't need any revenge or harm his way.
I just wish the two of them would whisk off into the sunset and I get to be a full time mummy again ... Just like I'd planned when trying to conceive them. But even that would break my heart because I know how much they love their Daddy.
There's really no solution ... Just a broken mummy on one day.
06-11-2013 14:57 #23
hugs , its ok to be 'broken mummy' for one day. You are strong and together every other day, so if you need a quite moment to feel sad, that is ok. As you said, you only wanted to be a full time mummy, and others actions have cause this situation. I hope the sad time passes quickly for you. Marie.
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I know it doesn't really help but I hope you and your boys have a wonderful Christmas morning and hopefully the afternoon and evening aren't too difficult. Do you have any friends who don't have family nearby who you could catch up with in the evening?
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06-11-2013 18:20 #26
I'm feeling really sad about it all TBH.
Christmas is a huge event in my family and I want to spend the whole day with my children, but I won't see them for half the day I don't even get them for the first half of the day this year, it's going to feel so wrong. This is the first year of this for me.
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07-11-2013 17:08 #29
While i dont have DS going else where, i am working christmas day and will miss half the day, perhaps all of it if people dont show up for the arvo shift. Hope everyone who has kids going to their ex's enjoy their day and make it as special as they can.
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07-11-2013 21:21 #30
Oh TB&M, your OP made me tear up our stories are so unbelievably similar aren't they?
This year is my first having to share DS1 (last year exDH just came to lunch with us, didn't know about the gf at the time ) and I've just started stressing about it in the past week. I'm already dreading Christmas this year - and every year - because of it.
It's so unfair that we are forced to share our children, particularly when we've also been so wronged by our DH's. It's irrational I know, but I feel as though I'm being 'punished' for him having an affair. It should be HIM missing out, not me.
To make it worse, it means part of the day I'll be alone while he still has his gf and new baby. I'm pretty sure he will be taking DS1 to the gf's family too since his own don't do anything...I wish I was allowed to prevent that, but alas I'm not.
I'm trying to decide whether I would prefer DS1 with me in the morning, or afternoon/night. Any suggestions? We'll probably alternate each year and I'm thinking since he's only just turned 2, maybe I should let exDH have him Xmas eve/morning this year, so it means I get him next year when he'll be much more aware of Xmas??! It's my call to dictate terms so any advice would be appreciated.
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