DH and I want to go out on Saturday night. We have a pretty famous comedian coming to our small town to do a gig at the local RSL, and we would really like to go. But!.......
I don't have a babysitter. MIL would come and babysit for us but that would mean she would have to look after the kids at our place (she lives 2.5 hours away). And that makes me very nervous I doubt I would enjoy myself at the show because I would spend the whole night thinking about what MIL is doing in my house
I'm not concerned that she won't look after the kids or anything like that, it's just HER being in my home, well, um, unattended that bothers me!
This is not new for me. My youngest child is 4 years old and MIL has never babysat in our home. Whenever she watches the kids (which isn't often) we drop them at her place, because usually we are heading to the city for something and her place is on the way.
Does anyone else feel this way? Or is it just me
MIL has a knack of making everything she does sound normal 'Well, doesn't everyone do that!' like, doesn't every grandma come and babysit in the kids own home!?!.
Anyway I am soooo undecided on what to do. Suggestions? TIA XXX
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05-11-2013 13:53 #1
Anyone else wary of allowing IL's to babysit in your own home?
05-11-2013 13:56 #2
I honestly don't understand the issue. She is your DHs mum and your kids grandma, why does she need to be supervised?
And I think it's pretty normal for grandparents to come over to babysit.
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05-11-2013 13:58 #3
Hi Cicho! I can understand your nervousness. My MIL rarely looks after my boys in my house and I prefer it that way! My mum always has them here and that's fine, but it's a bit different when it's your mil.
I guess you need to weigh up whether it's worth the stress for you personally. Are you worried about her going through your stuff? On the other hand it's nice for your children to be in their own home.
It's a tough one! I hope you can reach a decision that you are comfortable with
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05-11-2013 14:02 #4
Yeah, I understand she is DH's mum too, but that doesn't make me feel any better about it.
My own mother has never ever visited my home, let alone babysat here, but that is another issue, so DH has never been offended because I have never asked MIL to babysit at our place because my mother has never done it either.
05-11-2013 14:05 #5
I would actually prefer my DS to be babysat in his own home.
What is the issue OP? Are you afraid she is going to go through your stuff?
My main concern with anyone babysitting my DS would be that I could trust them to look after him. Sounds like your MIL is more than capable and trustworthy in that aspect.
05-11-2013 14:05 #6
MIL's boundaries are a lot different to mine and I think that is also an issue with me. What she thinks is ok for her to do in my home is proably the exact opposite of how I feel. I'll give it some more thought but I'm leaning towards just not going out on Saturday night because it wouldn't be worth the stress.
05-11-2013 14:07 #7
Is there a particular reason? Like she would go through your things?
I was the opposite for the first 15mths the grandparents had to come to my house to babysit dd as I didn't like her staying at there house lol
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05-11-2013 14:13 #9
Could you do a quick scout around and put away anything really personal? Might be easier said than done but it might make you feel more comfortable. It would be a shame to miss out on a night out kid free!
05-11-2013 14:14 #10
She'll probably be too busy looking after the kids to do any major snooping. I suppose you know her and I don't. If you truly don't feel comfortable and it's causing you stress, don't do it.
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