We lost our beautiful baby on Wednesday after TTC for 3 years. It happened very quickly. After seeing bubby on a scan in the morning with beautiful HCG numbers to pouring blood several hours later and passing the baby within an hour of the bleeding starting. It was rather traumatic....I've never seen so much blood. This was our first pregnancy and we conceived via our second cycle of IVF. We were so excited. Now I'm just devastated and heart broken and lost. Since leaving the hospital late Wednesday night I've not left the house or gotten out of pjs except for a trip to the doctors for a script of diazepam cause I'm so distressed I haven't slept. I don't know what to do now. I'm just empty. I cry all day long and when I'm not crying I just stare at the tv but I have no idea what I'm watching. My fertility specialist is sending me out support options and I think I will need some counselling. I'm obviously not coping. DH has been my rock. I some how have to find the strength to go see my fertility specialist on Monday for repeat bloods and a check up. I'm still bleeding and passing small clots and cramping. I wish it would hurry up and be over so I can start to move forward and look to the future.
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01-11-2013 18:54 #1Member
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01-11-2013 19:25 #2
I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine what you must be going through. Be good to yourself, get lots of rest and please allow yourself to grieve. I think it's good you're already thinking about counseling, that's a brave first step and will help to give you some support.
01-11-2013 19:26 #3Senior Member
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I am so sorry for your loss look after yourself and get lots of rest, cry when you need to xx
01-11-2013 19:31 #4
I am so sorry, let yourself be sad, don't give yourself a timeline to feel better by, I'm glad your partner had been so supportive, xxx
01-11-2013 19:33 #5
I'm so sorry for your loss Take all the time you need to grieve, there's no way around it just through it. While you never forget an angel baby, I hope when you are ready to start again your earth side bubba will swiftly follow xx
01-11-2013 19:40 #6
Im so very sorry for your loss..
My husband and I have been through a similar situation with our first IVF cycle.
It is so heart breaking and devastating! Lean on your DH and family and allow your to be sad.
I went and seen a councillor and it was a huge help for me.
Take Care of yourself x
01-11-2013 19:45 #7
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my 3rd just over a week ago so I understand the pain. It does get better. There are some m/c and ttc after loss threads on BH that might help. I found the most support in those that have experienced loss as well as I think however much you can empathise, you simply can't understand fully unless you've been through it yourself.
I know we don't know each other, but feel free to PM me anytime just to debrief, or cry or tell me how unfair it is
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01-11-2013 20:00 #8
So sorry :'( x
01-11-2013 20:04 #9
So sorry to hear about your loss. Just wanted to say that how you're feeling is totally normal. Some things make no sense and are so unfair. Do all the crying you need.
I was there 10 weeks ago and while things get easier there are plenty of tough times ahead. Today is the first day I haven't cried this week but I've been on the verge of it all day. The emotional pain mixed with all those bloody hormones make it even harder.
01-11-2013 20:04 #10
I am so so sorry
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