* Dummy - yes (even though I am not a fan)
* Food wishes - yes... Unless they were overly unhealthy (eg feed my 5 month old a Big Mac)
* cc : hmmmm. To some extent I would follow their wishes and not go to every whimper. But when I go in would be up to me, where my line in the sand is.
Then again even if I was retired I wouldn't be looking after my grand kids on a long term regular basis (eg 3 days a week while the parents work). They can get off their **** and organise/pay a real babysitter. A half a day every now and then so they can do something, yes.
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30-10-2013 19:19 #13
I would do most things that were requested but never cc. If my kids don't like it then they can pay for a babysitter.
And I don't care if studies prove it to be best (which they won't). I don't avoid cc because a study says not to. I don't do it as it feels instinctively wrong to me as a parent and I trust my instincts.
30-10-2013 19:19 #14
Cc is up to parents to do I think. It's too much to ask someone else to follow through on something that is a) controversial and b) potentially upsetting to all involved.
30-10-2013 19:19 #15
I will follow my kids' instructions when the time comes to babysit for them. I'd hate to cause fights and tension! My mum has always done what I request when babysitting, but thankfully we have similar styles of parenting so there haven't been many issues.
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30-10-2013 19:25 #17
It depends. One offs, or evening babysitting I would follow their wishes. If I was offering to be free child care, as my MIL has done, I would be far more 'my rules'. I think there are far too many parents today who get free child care of their own parents and basically boss them around and treat them like the staff. If you trust someone enough to watch your child regularly and for long hours, I think you have to trust them to do things their way. Or you can pay someone you can boss around.
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30-10-2013 19:39 #19
I can see both sides.
1.) if you want a babysitter, you have to accept that people will do it differently to you
2.) as a parent, I want my wishes to be granted when it comes to babysitting
When my mil was visiting here from overseas for the first time to meet dd1, dd1 was 4 months old and could already put herself to sleep without cc and sleep 12/13 hours a night. We went out one night for dinner and came home early for some reason (can't even remember now) to find mil rocking dd1 to sleep. I was so annoyed, then she wonders why I don't want to leave her with the kids.
30-10-2013 19:39 #20
Very very true FL! I hope my children are easy going!
Ok CIO/CC is very controversial.....
Let's say that in 20 years, the 'done thing' is to put your child in front of the tv at all times, and outdoor time is to be limited to under an hour a day, and preferable none for the under-twos.... Ok ridiculous lol! But let's say it happens. Could you do it? I'd probably do it for short term babysitting arrangements but gosh it'd be hard to change my own opinions and thoughts to accept the 'current recommendations'...
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