big big hugs. I'm sorry you and DH are going through this. Give him some time.....and you too!
You are still a team! Women and men can behave differently when it comes to going through something like this....if it was you, you might want to get into all the detail with DH, hash things out, explore different possibilities right from the get go - whereas he sounds like he needs to go through things in his own head at the moment. He must feel like he's letting you (ie the team) down
Sorry to make assumptions - just trying to be helpful.....I hope I am anyway
It's good that he did give you a summary of sorts though! And he's willing to move forward with other testing - that's pretty awesome.
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09-11-2013 12:06 #291
09-11-2013 12:32 #292
Oh Calstar. I wish it was better news so you weren't having to go through this.
I think littleduck is right, hopefully given done time your DH will come around. And maybe having a chat with him to let him know you are a team and that you want to be there for him might be beneficial fir him to hear...
Pm be if you need. We are all here for you if you need.. X
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09-11-2013 12:56 #293
Oh im so sorry to hear calstar.. what a difficult situation you are in!
Af still hasnt arrived here... im wondering when I should go back to the doctors?
On better news...
I woke up this afternoon (I am on my night shift week end) and my ferret has had babies.... that kinda makes me a mum doesnt it?
09-11-2013 13:13 #294
Calstar - do you know anyone in a similar situation that he could talk to?
He has had his manhood questioned and he probably feels terrible that it is his body that is letting everything down. Some men go through depression after finding out such news.
Try and think of something he would like to do and treat him - let him know how special he is and that you will work through it together - he probably just needs some processing time first.
I'm no expert, but it would appear to me that IVF would be an option in the future depending on his other results as well of course. We almost went down this road but were given one last go on fert. meds after a lap and we got our first little bean.
It does feel horrible being the one letting the team down - it has been my body both times that has caused the issues - first infertility and now it kills off the babies.
Go and do something fun together.
At least you know now where things are at. Big hugs.
09-11-2013 13:21 #295
From what I read from my dh sa,
above 31% normal movement is fine
Your dh is only just under so should be fine
Above 39% of total alive sperm (moving well and not moving well)
Your result was 60%
And it doesn't have a normal range needed for dead sperm
But my dh had 60% dead, 37% normal movement and 2% not normal movement and we have conceived twice
I really dont think its that bad. Maybe just more zinc, vitamin c
Did he abstain for only 2-3 days?
But definently look into help if you know your dtd at the right time and its been a while
Biggest of hugs. xxxx
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09-11-2013 16:10 #296
Sorry to hear Calstar, maybe give him some time to cope with his diagnosis and come to terms with it. Hopefully he comes around and is able to talk about it with you or with someone else.
Well sore now after my ultrasound this morning and much poorer because of it, I don't know why they bother giving you the cost of the scan before hand when they decide to add an extra $60 to it when the scan went no longer then it was meant to. Have also bought 5 maternity bras on sale at Myer and some maternity shorts from jeans west today just to add to my lack of funds,
09-11-2013 16:52 #297
09-11-2013 17:06 #298
no they shouldnt not impressed but need to find out whats happening.
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09-11-2013 18:00 #299
Things have got better as the days gone on.
We're talking again now. You can tell we are still both hurting inside though, and I'm on very thin emotional ice right now.
DH has said he feels like everything is his fault & that he feels so bad. I've told him its not his fault we're struggling. That we both have things that aren't quite right.
He has said about improving his diet & he'll start taking menevit again (he took them for about a week when we first started ttc but stopped because they apparently made his nuts ache) but he'll be starting on them again. Reducing his alcohol intake, something I've been on at him about for a while (he's not a heavy drinker but will often have at least one a night - my dads an alcoholic & that's why it bothers me).
He's even said he'll try boxers, something I didn't expect as he hates things bouncing around. So he's willing & eager to try and improve his results.
Does anyone have any tips??
We went to the cinema this arvo. It was good to get out & be together but not have the pressure of having to talk.
I think things will get better as the days go by and the initial impact of the results have worn off.
I've said this doesn't mean we can't get pregnant, that he hadn't failed in making us parents. But that it may just take a bit longer than usual, or we may need a little help along the way.
I want to thank you all for caring so much. I'm not sure what id do without you all here to lend an ear and a cyber hug when needed. We don't really have anyone else irl to talk to.
Wobbler I hope they can find out what the problem is & that it isn't too serious and won't cause you or bub any issues.
Cheeky sods charging you extra though!!
Big hugs to everyone from your favourite squishy xox
09-11-2013 18:17 #300
That's great calstar
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