Annerley and maybe next time you'll be more prepared for breastfeeding and be able to manage a bit longer. You're definitely right about mix feeding ultimately leading to weaning early. All the mothers in my Mother's Group who mix fed ended up stopping breastfeeding before they were ready.
It's because the baby gets used to the faster easier flow of a bottle and the lack of nipple stimulation reduces supply.
One of the things that's helped me breastfeed this long is Bubhub .
Often when I'm on here, I'm lying down feeding DS. But it's a lot quicker than it used to be.
At 12 weeks or so babies become a lot more efficient and feeds become very short, especially during the day. It's not like the early days where they are on the boob all the time.
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12-12-2015 21:08 #731
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12-12-2015 21:18 #732
No testing yet @Minib as I'm 10dpo so may not get a line, I'm curious but also happy to wait a bit longer. I'm planning to poas the morning of my BT so hubby and I can find out together before he leaves for work. I'll be 13dpo then so will be able to trust the test. 13dpo is also the day I got my bfp with DD.
My DD lost about 6% of her birth weight but I know it would have been much more had she not had formula. She was only 50g shy of her birth weight at her 10 day check so that was good.
I think ultimately why I did start the bottle feed each night is because DD would cluster feed at night and it felt like it was never going to end. It would be getting late, I'd be tired and she'd still be no where near settled for bed. We'd give her the bottle and off to sleep she'd go.
It definitely isn't easy, you are right there!! I think you have a great attitude- you are trying hard but know it's not something that you have to do, if it doesn't end up working out. I found it helped if I made short term goals. Like when I started with the 1 bottle a day at 7 weeks, I aimed to make it to 3mths. When DD turned 3mths and mix feeding was still working, I felt so happy!
DD is 18mths old next week. She has slept in her own cot in her own room for the past year (she was in her own bassinet in our room for the first 5.5mths) and self settles. She gave up bottles so easily, we stopped formula at her birthday and she was completely bottle free by 14mths of age. I don't judge anyone who co-sleeps at all but I don't think it's for me. I'd hate the thought of her sleeping with us, jumping on and off my boob all night and only being able to settle with a boob in her mouth. I know it's all not like that when people breastfeed but from those with babies the age of my DD, it seems the ones who have weaned the easiest are those who bottle fed as its something that can be taken away- can't exactly take away your breasts and make them disappear. Some of the toddlers actually claw at their mums chests and almost rip mums shirt off in public when they want a feed.
If you end up bottle feeding one day, it's normal to feel a little sadness but I found it easier when I could look at some positives of our situation.
Good luck and and know whatever you are doing is your best!
Thanks @ScubaGal you are right! I really had no idea what I was going to be in for. I had heard so much about how breastfeeding can hurt, which it did in the really early days but once the pain went away and my milk came in, I thought our challenges were over. I hadn't been around babies much until I had DD so had no idea that they can change their habits so quickly. I thought our feeding was going to continue going well and suddenly it all changed and I was so confused what to do and panicked since she was a tiny bub who couldn't afford to not gain weight. I definitely will be more prepared, now I just gave to cross my fingers that there is a next time!!
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13-12-2015 13:27 #733
Minib- your little girl sounds exactly like my DS when he was a newborn. Sounds like you trying your best and it's so tricky at the start. With DS He would fall asleep 10 sec in to a feed and it would be a struggle to get him to keep feeding. I utilized the LC at the hospital and used to call a midwife in for every feed because I lacked confidence and he was so hard to latch. My milk came in pretty late and I had to pump after every feed and syringe feed him a top up. It was so heartbreaking to see him crying and he lost more than 10% of his weight. I preserved with bfing I even called a private lactation consultant a few days after I got home in desperation. She came to my house and it was amazing. She said to pump after a feed but for no more than 10 mins on each side. She helped with latching which was so difficult and we had a plan to help fatten him up. I can give you her details if you like. Bfing hurt and I would get anxiety thinking about the next feed but set little goals to get to and eventually it didn't hurt and we loved it. We exclusively fb for three months but had to stop because he developed an allergy and was bleeding every time he pooed and I tried everything to keep bfing but the childrens hospital told me to stopped after nothing worked. I still pumped every day for a month just in case I could still bf and I did a little until he refused the breast. It was so heartbreaking. I hope with this bubba I can bf for much longer.
With day and. Night I used to wheel the bassinet into the lounge room in the day, have the tv on and then into our room at night. That's helped a lot. It's so tricky you think it's all settling down and then they change.
Annerley I can't believe your BT is in only 2 days! Fingers crossed x
13-12-2015 14:00 #734
@Riss78 it would be good if I could get the LC details in case I need it. In hindsight I should have said no to top up but I was too worried and lack of confidence. Anyway for the last 2 days I have been feeding her around the clock. No top up. But last night I did give her a bottle of formula as she has been so upset. Today she's much better. Latching better and calmer. She takes on the boobs pretty well but my nipples start to get a bit sore. Not because of the frequency. More because she bit on it w few days ago and now it gets sore because she sucks on it longer and more frequent. I am more nervous about nighttime because I'm not sure how she is. But will see how we go and keep positive.
She even had an hour nap in between feeds today. That's a great achievement.
Oh no re the allergies. Hopefully your second bubba no issue at all and no allergies. So hard isn't it BF-ing? Being first time mum, wow things can be overwhelming. Day 3-5 were hard for me. So emotional. But now I'm so much better and more rested too. I'm really enjoying it so far.
15-12-2015 11:37 #735
@Minib I got a bfp yesterday on a hpt and had my BT this morning and it's a positive! I'm happy of course but extremely cautious! Next BT is this Friday.
My progesterone was looking great, which is pleasing since I'm not on any meds to help this time!
15-12-2015 12:15 #736
15-12-2015 13:09 #737
My beta was 51 for 3 weeks and 6 days pregnant and P4 was 58. Apparently they were really happy with that but I wasn't sure what to expect the day before af is due
15-12-2015 13:28 #738
That's a good beta. My clinic likes beta over 200 at 16dpo which is 4w2d
So working backwards your beta of 51 at 3w6d is awesome!!
22-04-2016 17:00 #739
Huge congrats on the birth of your little girl @Chiefsgirl I noticed a post on another thread and am so so happy for you! So well deserved that you are finally a mum. I hope everything is going well and that you are enjoying your precious baby!
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