What she is doing is normal but sleep deprivation is a form of torture so what you're feeling is also normal and nothing to do with how much you love her.
I remember begging my 1 week old son to sleep one night (didn't work obviously lol but I was so desperate) .
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13-10-2013 11:13 #11Senior Member
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13-10-2013 12:19 #12Senior Member
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Totally normal, though i get how hard it is. I LOVE my sleep. As she is so young theres not really much you can do about it expect make sure night time feeds are in a dark, quiet room with little or no fuss.
My advice to you is sleep when she does during the day...bugger the house work and just take it as it comes...this is newborns for ya!
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13-10-2013 12:31 #14
Thank you all for your suggestions and reassurance. It is torture at times and I am really worried for df as he is returning to work tomorrow. It's one thing for me to be tired at home but I am concerned for his safety using heavy machinery and being sleep deprived.
We had her in a Moses basket beside the bed but it isn't working. I spend more time getting her in and out than not. She also wakes the second we put her back in. So we bought a co sleeping pod thing today to have in between us.
She seems to sleep much better in the bed but neither of us were getting a good rest because we were so worried about her getting smothered or caught up in the sheets.
Hopefully the pod helps us relax a little too.
I never experienced anything like this with ds so it's all very new to us ATM
13-10-2013 12:42 #15
Moo had days and nights mixed up for about yer first 6 weeks.
I just wouldnt talk to her during the night session, bum change feed no talking no lights on and straight back to sleep after (we co slept for the first 6-7 months because she would NOT sleep anywhere but in my arms) then she made the decision we were too uncomfy for her so she went in her cot.
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13-10-2013 12:46 #16
My kids both took till about 3 weeks before they went from an owl to a baby.
Your body will soon get used to the sleepless nights but those first weeks are so draining, I agree.
Hang in there it'll get better soon.
13-10-2013 12:52 #17
It's totally normal especially for breastfeeding. I co slept. Bubs fed/slept then we would roll over and go again on the other side, it's the only way I got any rest. But I am not a heavy sleeper, so it's up to what you feel comfortable with
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13-10-2013 14:47 #18
Also to help with day & night, in the day time open all your curtains and make sure your house is very bright. Then at tea time close all the curtains & only use minimal lighting near bubs. When bubs was in your tummy it was night all the time
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13-10-2013 15:05 #19
Also, at night, like a pp said, keep it dark with no talking, try to just use a very dim lamp or a nightlight, no tv on (boring I know!), make feeds really boring.
That will help getting her body clock set for night and day.
The cluster feeding is completely normal! Just go with it. It will establish your supply.
You said your partner goes back to work tomorrow? Can he temporarily sleep in a separate room? My dh would sleep through a bomb going off, so his nights are rarely disturbed, but if bubs was waking him, I'd change the sleeping arrangements, especially if he has a dangerous job.
You're doing great, just keep going!
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13-10-2013 15:18 #20
Excellent suggestions here. Just wanted to give you a big hug, xxxx the first few weeks of my sons life were the hardest, much worse than i EVER anticipated. I was crying every day, its so so cruel not grtting any sleep.
Accept each and every offer of help from anyone who offers it and reach out to people for little things like hanging out a load of washing.
I think ds knew what was day and night by around 2 months.
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