I have an 8 week old baby and for last few weeks have started a bit of a night routine. I bath him at 6pm then go into my room and sit in feeding chair and breastfeed then rock him until asleep and put him down in bassinet. So he is asleep and in bed by around 7ish, if unsettled it can be up to 8pm.
My husband gets home from work at 6.30pm, so essentially he doesn't see his son awake on a working day. I was thinking maybe waiting til hubby is home and he can do the bath or put bub in shower with him but this wouldn't be til about 7. Then by time I feed and settle him it would be quite late.
So, what do YOU do for a night 'routine' when husband doesn't get home from work til late? And do you both wait til after baby is settled to have dinner together? Or have dinner separately?
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12-10-2013 01:51 #1
What is your night/bedtime routine with your baby?
12-10-2013 08:03 #2Senior Member
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I did a similar thing and waited for 'us' to be ready to put baby to bed and he would get totally over tired, I think what you're doing is great and do what you need to!
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12-10-2013 08:09 #3
My dp works 4 on 4 off - and is gone for 14 hours at a time. He never see's the kids on work days, so he misses seeing them 50% of the time. Yes, I could keep them up late to see him, but its not fair on them.
Keep with what works for you. If you have found a working routine so early I say lucky you- my dd is slightly older and we're still working on it (made difficult with boisterous older brothers!) and so stick to it to make life easy for you!
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12-10-2013 08:13 #4
We don't really have a routine she doesn't have a bath everyday because her skin was drying out too much.
We are social people etc and if dp wants to spend time with her after work he will put her to bed and let me eat dinner but she usually tells us 'BED' from 6:30-7! And it doesn't matter if we are out she will fall asleep in the pram.
I think what your doing is great, but you have to consider your partner too. X
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12-10-2013 09:11 #5
Dinner, bath, bed with minimal amounts of playing or other activities in between.
I originally aimed to have her in bed by 7.30 but she was so tired & grumpy earlier that I started the routine much earlier than that - she's 17 months now and almost always in bed by 6.30.
I start the routine around 5.30, but usually she's showing signs of wanting to start earlier. So we start regardless of whether DH is home...sometimes he misses out on seeing her which is sad but I just tell him to make up for tiny getting up with her in the mornings lol.
Will def be doing a routine with baby number two - I'm very glad we started as early as we did.
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12-10-2013 09:14 #6
We also start our routine regardless of whether DH is home. Dinner, bath, books (sometimes this is skipped if bub is too tired), feed for baby, bed.
ETA: sometimes I eat with the kids at 5.30pm and sometimes DH and I eat together after they are asleep. Both are usually asleep by 7pm
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12-10-2013 09:33 #7
What suits bub is our motto. Both our kids prefer being asleep by 7.30pm so we start baths at 6pm even if the other parent is not there. If I'm working I'm always home by 7pm to feed the baby.
Can hubby do your morning routine? Wake and cuddles at breakfast?
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12-10-2013 09:38 #8
Yeah I'm torn as to what to do as what we are doing IS working well, but I hate that DS can go days without really seeing hubby. It is not every week,
As he works pretty much a 4 on/ 4 off roster and every 3rd week nights so he sees him when he does night shift and his days off.
DS doesn't have a day routine - just feed on demand and hope he gets a few sleeps in! And if we want to do something eg on weekends, i wouldn't NOT go somewhere because it would effect DS routine - I don't want to be that strict about it. Just more for him to realise 'oh I just had a bath and now I'm having a feed and its dark, it must be bed time'. Which does seem to work as he sleeps from 7pmish to 4-5 in morning (I do a dream feed at around 10pm usually). So I'm also in the mindset of, if its working just leave it...
Hmm! I guess I can just give the later routine a try one night and see how it goes. Just that extra hour moving it to bathing at 7pm seems so much later and sometimes DS is unsettled late arvos so the 6pm bath works well to calm him.
I know I'm probably completely over thinking this...I just feel guilty no matter what I do sometimes with this mothering bizzo!
12-10-2013 09:42 #9
Thanks ladies for the replies too...hubby leaves home in the morning at 0520am so usually bub has had his morning feed and back asleep for another couple of hours. If he is awake finishing a feed at that time DH will burp him to help out and then have a few minutes smiling and talking with him before going to work.
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