I'd never say never, but probably not in most circumstances. It would depend on so many things - whether I wanted more babies myself, whether the relationship with the ex was good and what the co-parenting arrangements were...
I wouldn't want a donation from my ex though. I'd really like DD to have siblings, so I'm hoping that he has babies with someone else one day. Just not me lol.
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29-09-2013 07:54 #31
29-09-2013 07:59 #32Senior Member
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No way. She's a psycho! They don't even have kids together (thank god) so there's no way I'd want her permanently tied to us forever!
29-09-2013 08:04 #33
To the OP - hell no! Child support would not even factor- wtf? That's essentially selling his sperm. Yuck, no. They broke up for a reason, why drag another child into it who may find out they were bought by their mum and unwanted by their dad? Horrible.
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29-09-2013 08:06 #34
No I wouldn't agree to not paying child support but I'd be ok with him donating sperm. But of course it depends on lots of things.
In the past I have thought about asking DS' dad for sperm to be able to have another baby but I know he wouldn't say yes. After DS was born and we seperated he told me really he didn't care if we didn't have a child or not. Yeah lovely to tell me after our DS was born, D!CK
But really, I decided if I want to have my own child again I'd go anonymous sperm donor. More for the fact I really don't want to deal with child maintenance and having to organize visits with the father etc. I'd definitely do this if getting too old and no partner in my life to.
29-09-2013 08:16 #35
I'm not sure how I'd feel.
I can see where the ex is coming from to have her kids have the same father and if you all had a good relationship I can't say I'd definitely rule it out.
That being said,if I were you I would be really disappointed in my partner if he was prepared to take up the deal and stop paying CS.... He needs to remain responsible for his children.
I'd have to say I'm probably about 95% NOT in favour of the deal but I'd have to have a really deep think about it before making a decision, especially if you don't want any kids yourself!
29-09-2013 08:18 #36
No no and no. No chance!!
29-09-2013 08:22 #37
Why don't you ask him if he would be comfortable with you having a child for your ex.....
29-09-2013 08:26 #38
29-09-2013 08:28 #39
It would make me look at my own husband so incredibly differently. The fact that he would consider bringing another child into the world and neglecting it would make me see him as a machine not a father. I would lose so much admiration and my relationship with him would change. - maybe even too much. To think about how that child would feel to find that out - devastating!
She may have her own reasons etc but who cares about that. I'm nt in a relationship with her.
29-09-2013 08:29 #40Senior Member
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I would have huge problems with this. And by the way you can't trade child support off. He could "donate" his sperm in exchange for no cs and even have it in a contract and she could still force him to pay.
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