View Poll Results: Would you allow your partner to be a sperm donor for his ex?

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    I wouldn't even support his decision to no longer financially support his own child(ren) let alone donate sperm to his ex on top of that!

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    I wouldn't be okay with him no longer paying child support. It doesn't make sense to me. Plus the ex could change her mind down the track and he could then be paying child support for two children (rightfully so).

    I think there would be too much involved and I wouldn't feel ok about a hypothetical partner doing this. But it'd be his decision entirely.

    As a person with children to my ex whom I completely adore (the kids not him) I wouldn't even contemplate it. If I desperately wanted another child I'd seek an anon donor myself. It seems a little off to even request given the said ex now has a new partner.

    I didn't realise child support was a bargaining tool?? How ridiculous!! I'd definitely look down the the woman asking and even more so on my partner contemplating ridding himself of financial responsibility. Makes me sad for the children involved.

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    No, three in the bed is too many. Given that donor sperm is available now, she has other options she can access if having a child is really important to her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Theboys&me View Post
    I didn't realise child support was a bargaining tool?? How ridiculous!! I'd definitely look down the the woman asking and even more so on my partner contemplating ridding himself of financial responsibility. Makes me sad for the children involved.
    Men are always trying to get out of paying CS! Just take a look at the single parent section. There's so many women who also complain about their partners paying child support to his ex. I think many single mums here would totally be happy not to have to receive child support from their ex anymore if they came upon enough money to no longer need it, just due to the drama of it all anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eMBe View Post
    If you couldn't/didn't want any more children?
    Still no..

    CS or not they can still ask for CS later (and rightly so)

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    Hell no! That's the stupidest thing I've heard. Any guy who agrees to that has a screw loose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    Men are always trying to get out of paying CS! Just take a look at the single parent section. There's so many women who also complain about their partners paying child support to his ex. I think many single mums here would totally be happy not to have to receive child support from their ex anymore if they came upon enough money to no longer need it, just due to the drama of it all anymore.
    That's so sad!!! I myself receive no child support from my ex as he went back to uni at the start of the year - but once he starts working again I'm sure I'll get some. I just save more and budget a little tighter to support my boys on my own.

    But the point is I can't believe people would use giving someone the option of not paying it in return for something else. I can't get my head around it.

    It absolutely sickens me when I hear people whinging about their partners having to pay it. I'm sure a different tune would be sung if their own children were no longer supported. But that's a whole different thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Theboys&me View Post
    That's so sad!!! I myself receive no child support from my ex as he went back to uni at the start of the year - but once he starts working again I'm sure I'll get some. I just save more and budget a little tighter to support my boys on my own.

    But the point is I can't believe people would use giving someone the option of not paying it in return for something else. I can't get my head around it.

    It absolutely sickens me when I hear people whinging about their partners having to pay it. I'm sure a different tune would be sung if their own children were no longer supported. But that's a whole different thread.
    I've been on this forum toooo long and have seen too many sad stories/complaints about child support. It's sad but it makes me feel lucky that my ex never complains about paying and has at times offered more as extra.

    Also I think for most single mums their ex is the last man they'd want to be a sperm donor!

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    I voted no. SO's ex is uBPD and a golden uterus, so she's already a bit of a nightmare to deal with, I wouldn't want to give her another little being to use against SO.

    HOWEVER. IF she wasn't such a nightmare, I might've consider it, when I met SO I did think it would have been nice if SD had a full blood sibling and at the time I thought I was done having children. I think it would take a very unique situation for this to work, and all parties would have to be VERY CLEAR about everything before going into it. I don't think CS should be stopped though.

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    We're not a step or blended family but this question is a really good one so I want to stick my oar in, pls disregard if I'm posting out of turn .
    I wouldn't be comfortable with that at all (even being asked it would make me so unhappy). We were ttc for 8 years, for someone else to carry DHs child it would just break me (plus I'm sure if other kids are involved and there are regular visits, I'd have to be a step parent to a child my husband conceived while married to me, it's just too hurtful).
    On the other hand I can see why someone would want the same father for all their children, but I think you have to let go when your ex has moved onto a new family (asking a single ex for this isn't that unreasonable).
    I also second pps concerns over not paying child support, if anything it muddies the waters (and makes it a paid donation which I think isn't too legal in Australia).



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