Looking at me people would think I have a very poor diet and don't exercise. They'd be slightly right about the diet, it needs adjusting slightly but for the most part it's pretty good. I don't intentionally exercise but I have a very physical job. Like others have said I'm losing weight so whats the point of buying new clothes that will (with any luck) be too big too soon.
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27-09-2013 15:42 #21
27-09-2013 15:47 #22
I'm am awesome mum. I don't need to look good to impress other people. I know a chick whose hair and make up is always done perfectly and wears expensive designer clothes. She spends half her time talking about how stylish she is. I feel so sorry for her daughter being raised to think she must always look perfect for others to like, that constant need for approval from others.
27-09-2013 15:55 #23
I think what everyone's said so far is exactly right.
For me, I take pride in the appearance of my son. I like him to look neat and well presented. I hate when he looks grubby and mucky (aside from during/after play obviously!!). He isn't able to totally dress himself yet so that responsibility lies with me.
I'm up and out of the house at 5:40 every weekday morning. If I have a ****ty nights sleep for some reason, I prefer to get an extra 20 minutes of sleep than wash/blow dry/straighten/curl my hair and smear on a thick coating. Most days I get up, quickly put on some tinted moisturiser or foundation (with my fingers coz I don't have time for a foundation brush), most of the time I run a brush through my hair, and brush my teeth, then grab out whatever clothes don't make me feel frumpy at that particular moment. Then get ds up and get him dressed and organised and we are out the door. I get home at 6pm and cook dinner/shower/bedtime for ds and fold washing/do dishes/make lunches. I have 'time' to wash my hair once a week and that is at the showers after our swimming lessons.
I do take pride in my appearance, however it is the least of my priorities because I prefer to spend my spare time doing other things.
Oh and also, if someone is as unlucky to have skin like mine, I can put makeup on in the morning and by 9am will need full reapplication. And yes, that is even the case with professional application. So I spend the rest of the day with my blemished spotty face scaring the world.
Aaaaand lastly. I put more effort into keeping ds' wardrobe best and tidy because I usually do his washing before I do mine, so by the time I get around to putting mine away I really just want to go to bed so it ends up in a bit of a shambles. So ds clothes are usually easy to find and all neatly hanging or folded and what not but mine are often rolled up in a ball in the washing basket or shoved on a shelf!
27-09-2013 15:56 #24Why do some mums put so much effort into their kids and zero into themselves?
2. I'm pregnant and can no longer fit into my little black dress so a comfortable black tracksuit is the order of the day. My feet are wider and so my Louboutins are out for the time being. My Dunlops are definitely in.
3. I can't find a remote control system that would do the washing up, prepare the meals, change nappies, run the bath, set the table and monitor the kids while I swan around doing my makeup, style my hair and get my nails done so I can look fabulous for those people out there whom I don't know who think that I've let myself go and are feeling sorry for me.
Meanwhile, I was buying some takeaway the other night (a rare treat) and next to me stood a very drunk bloke with two kids. He ordered two prawn sticks for the children and said to them there's you're dinner. When the older child said but dad we're hungry...he told them to shut up or ***** off.
He promptly bundled them into a new looking Jeep and drove off.
Do I wonder why men in suits with big 4WDs have a drinking problem and neglect their kids?
27-09-2013 16:13 #25Senior Member
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As someone who loves to put the effort in to my appearance but doesn't have the time, I'll give you an explanation...
I goty hair cut last week, but for my hair, it takes a good 2 weeks for my hair to 'settle' to how I like it.
So, yes it takes 2 mins to do a pony tail, but when you have fly-sways due to thin hair, it doesn't actually look that good.
Make up, I usually always put it on, but can it cover up the tiredness from having to deal with 2 little rascals and being pregnant with no3, no chance.
B00bs change, tummys bloat.
Sometimes you just don't look good no matter what you do. It's just not your day/week/month.
So where as my boys look super cute (to me) today on their adidas and quicksilver tshirts, yes I admit I look like crap.
If there's one thing motherhood has taught me...
Everyone does the best they can at the time.
So it would be nice not to be judged for everything and anything!
Ps I'm also a size 10 normally, I'm now a 14-16 being pregnant. I unfortunately put on lots of weight wen pregnant. So yes, my clothes look flabby ill-fitting and slobby. I cbf spending $150 on mat pants that I will only wear for a few months.
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27-09-2013 16:26 #26Junior Member
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Daggy clothes are more comfortable....now ive gotten fat they also hide a bit of the fat hahahaha.
But seriously.... pushing 2 toddlers in a trolley while wearing 6 inch heels is tough... Getting the kids dressed nicely and ready is 100x faster than it is for me to get myself ready... while I ALWAYS do my make up I rarely straighten or curl my hair everytime I go out like I use to...otherwise it takes too long to get out of the house. I simply do a messy bun now.
I use to get so dressed up and put so much effort into how I look... id spend 2.5hours curling my hair and doing my makeup to go to the supermarket for 5 minutes. (I use to look like I was going to a wedding) I did get compliments by strangers all the time but.... I felt bad about putting so much effort into how I look when thats time I could spend with my children.
27-09-2013 16:29 #27Junior Member
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Just want to add
Ones opinion of "neat and tidy" can greatly differ to how another defines it.
27-09-2013 16:58 #28
I put little effort into me, I'm underweight, my clothes never fit, my hair annoys the life out of me due to an enlarged goiter so always pulled up in a pony tail. I avoid mirrors as I'd rather not see the person looking back at me.
My kids don't have these issues so it gives me pleasure to buy them nice things and make sure I don't project my feelings on them.
I'm clean. My clothes are clean. My kids look nice. If you're going to judge me in my appearance then no thanks to you.
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27-09-2013 17:17 #29
I must admit, I think I am one of these mums! My mum laughs that I religiously lotion my children's skin, but why is my skin scaley and dry? I prefer to iron my kids clothes, but I often wear creased clothes that have been pulled out of a basket.
27-09-2013 17:30 #30Senior Member
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Woohoo! At last I am trendy! No longer a Beta Loser, I was in on the ground floor of this trend
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