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    Default refusing food spinoff - do you keep offering or let them go without??

    my 14 month old will only eat certain foods and lunch and dinner consists of me serving up different things until i find something she'll eat, usually plain pasta, spaghetti bolognese, cheese fruit and yoghurt.

    she eats EVERYTHING at daycare and seems to be hungrier on daycare days (more activity maybe) so she's not averse to different foods when she sees other kids eating, but it makes little difference if i'm eating or give her something from my plate.

    she's getting quite demanding now at meals and i'm after some advice - if she refuses what i serve up, for example what mum and dad are eating, do i not give her anything else at all? or keep trying with something she will like? i know she'll get used to being eventually offered what she wants but i don't want her to go hungry (= more wake ups overnight!)

    she has a bottle of cows milk before bed about 1.5hrs after dinner.

    she hasn't been great at eating what we eat at all and i'm wanting to fix this somehow.

    thanks

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    I would not be preparing a hundred meals until you find one she eats. Setting yourself up later for massive failure.

    Make things now that you know she will eat. Why does she eat at daycare ? Because she knows that that's all there is, nobody is going to make anything else.

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    she's actually eaten everything first time at daycare, i was htinking of asking them for their recipes!! not sure if anything else would be offered if she refused, but there does seem to be a lot of food on offer there (morning tea, lunch, afternoon tea, rice cakes around 4:30).

    i think i have expereinced that failure a few times! i know that sometimes she's just not hungry, and at her age that happens, but i'm in that (first time mum) phase of 'but i know she'll eat banana/yoghurt etc so i'll just give her that so she's not hungry' phase.

    maybe on the weekend i'll start offering less, that way i can handle the sleep deprivation if i don't have to be at work the next day...

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    To be honest, I don't think it's the recipes, it's the fact that she knows she won't be getting offered things she likes, so it's eat or go hungry. They're a lot smarter than we give them credit for!

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    i am beginning to realise the level of craftiness in her...

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    I would just make the things she likes most nights and add some different things in sometimes.
    Try and serve a variety of things on one plate such as stemed broccoli, peas and carrots, some pasta, some garlic bread etc.
    Try and make things into finger foods such as adding grated veg into sausage rolls, corn fritters, french toast bites, savoury muffins, mini quiches.
    Or blend up tons of vegies and make into pasta sauce or pizza sauce.

    As long as she gets a good variety of diff foods throughout the week try not to stress about it too much.
    You can always reheat stuff she doesn't eat the next day for lunch, and when you find something she likes make a big batch and freeze it.

    Smoothies are another good way of getting some fruit into them.

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    I have a fussy dd and I try to put at least one thing on her plate that she loves, but otherwise I don't make separate meals unless it's something I know she genuinely doesn't like.

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    If my kids don't eat what I make they starve. With my first I kept making different foods and she turned into the fussiest eater ever, it lasted 3 years till I said no more. Now she eats whatever I make. With my second if he doesn't eat what I make he goes without, he will eat a big breakfast though! Lol

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    She has you wrapped around her little finger Serve dinner, if she doesn't eat it don't offer anything else, I guarantee if she were hungry she would eat.

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    Tell her what you've made for dinner and asks if she's going to have some, when she says no, don't serve her, don't even put a plate down, sounds cruel, but you've got to work with their currency, biggest one being attention.
    So then she needs to go elsewhere from the table while you and your partner eat, as the table "is just for those who are eating".
    It'd be different if she genuinely doesn't like the food, but as you know now, it's a power play. She eats anything at child care because they won't give her anything else, they get one option, and if they don't eat, they go hungry. So she just knows she can whinge with you til she gets what she wants.

    You won't have to do it too many times, just don't give in!!

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