So as the title states, having a large (ish) family and your marriage.....
Im thinking about so many things when considering about having #4.
less time for each child,
more mess and chaos
also that DH is happy with our 3 already, doesnt want a 4th but hasnt ruled it out yet, think hes comfortable with what we have.
but wondering the effects it will have on my marriage....
less time for us a couple, wondering what it will do to our sex life etc
So i guess i want to hear about your experiences on having that one more child, on every aspect that you didnt consider when deciding on TTC for one more,
just dont feel complete.at.all.yet
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16-09-2013 18:51 #1Senior Member
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having a large(ish) 3+ family and the effect on your marriage
16-09-2013 19:03 #2
It made no difference to us.
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16-09-2013 19:06 #3
I think the potential issues are less time as a couple for various reasons, not just having a needy newborn. It will be an issue when you're running 4 kids around to birthday parties on the weekends, etc. I find it hard enough to take my ds to all his parties, I can't imagine doing it for 4 kids! Don't forget after school and weekend sport as well. And late night settling issues with your kids potentially for a long while. But, really is 4 a heap worse than 3? Not necessarily as with 4 you might be even more organised or say no more often and it might be fine.
The other issue though is the financial one. Does it mean you or your dh will have to work more & more and you'll end up seeing less & less of each other as you struggle to make ends meet. Kids get more & more expensive often as they get older and may be less willing to sharing rooms/etc ... and a 5 bedroom house is expensive.
We wanted 4, but stopped at 2 for many reasons. We both feel 100% confident we're finished with 2 though.
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