My DS 9 has massages/osteo every 6 months or so. He prefers me to wait outside. I know the guy well and I respect my son's wishes.
Why is it that men are immediately assumed to be bad?? ffs this is a professional...maybe mum/dad have been going there for years...maybe it was her dad/uncle?
Should we assume a female massage therapist would be having lust thoughts about a 13 year old boy?
SHould we assume that every male who gives a massage is lusting after his patients?
seriously...i feel so sorry for men sometimes!
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15-09-2013 07:44 #21Senior Member
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My 5 yo twins both have terrible growing pains. The only thing that helps is massage. I do it at the moment only because its easier however I have no issues sending them to a professional - male or female. Gosh, I can't understand this blanket assumption that males in female dominant roles are only out to satisfy their own needs. I too feel sorry for men, I couldn't imagine doing a job I loved and being seen as some kind of pervert because its a "traditionally" female role.
15-09-2013 11:33 #23Senior Member
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There are many European's who would wonder what all the fuss was about. I have a European friend who was getting massages from male masseuses (for they had the best pressure "apparently") and going into saunas (real ones where you are naked) from a very young age.
At this point we do not know if this was her first massage or not, her actual age, or any reason (not that I think there should be a reason at all for a massage). There are many reasons why a young teen could need a massage, let alone want one, without having to be a spoilt brat, and if she is being signed up for one a month, I'd say it is fairly easy to assume she has reasons besides enjoyment.
I agree that I would most likely have gone in for the first session, and had a massive talk with my child about appropriateness of touch (but how do we know this hasn't happened? We are assuming it hasn't because the Dad wasn't in there this time, but if she were a Gymnast/swimmer etc she has possibly already had massages and that talk before and may be comfortable with a male because of her coach/ physio than with her Dad in there!) but there is no way I would invade that relaxation time with my presence after that, if I didn't feel right after the first one I would have hunted again.
It is hard to judge from a snapshot what I would do in the same scenario. DD hasn't had a massage yet, but this has been her choice and not mine. If she did I would most likely go in with her but I am selfish and would get a massage at the same time in the double room!
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15-09-2013 11:56 #24
I have had massages since the age of 12 due to neck issues and tension headache. My first masseuse (a sports therapist) was male. My mum always sat in (probably until I was 16ish).
I have no issue with it if the parent is there.
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15-09-2013 12:01 #25
If the masseuse/masseur is clever they would always request a parent/carer be present for duty of care & to protect themselves. A minor could misunderstand and/or misrepresent the touch as sexual quite easily.
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15-09-2013 12:07 #26
Ive had massages and seen a chiro since I was 14 due to migraines. Both were male and not once was I uncomfortable or had a parent sit in on the appointment. I don't see the big deal at all.
15-09-2013 12:38 #27
I'd say MOST people working in that kind of industry, especially if they're working at a spa/salon/whatever, are just doing their job... not paedophiles just hoping that there may be a child client who comes in that they can tamper with. You'd be in the wrong industry if that's what you were hoping for... child clients being few and far between.
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