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    Quote Originally Posted by loodle View Post
    I have spoken to them many many times it is to the point where I feel like I am never having a nice conversation with them anymore because it is always me telling them off for leaving me to do everything. I have grounded and taken things off them, I have gone as far as to throw stuff left laying around in the bin. Believe me I have tried everything you are all suggesting and nothing seems to stick
    My Dad had a rule 'don't help your mother, then don't expect to be fed'. Seriously, if our chores weren't done we weren't to sit down for a meal that night. We had a roster on the fridge, believe me a day without food is enough to get a kid to complete their chores.

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    What is your partners stance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by loodle View Post
    I have spoken to them many many times it is to the point where I feel like I am never having a nice conversation with them anymore because it is always me telling them off for leaving me to do everything. I have grounded and taken things off them, I have gone as far as to throw stuff left laying around in the bin. Believe me I have tried everything you are all suggesting and nothing seems to stick

    Try to remind them nicely and calmly.

    Don't mad at them without reminding them and giving them a chance to get the job done first.

    Do you have a written roster placed somewhere everyone can see it?

    Do you have the consequences written on it too?

    Do you follow through every time? With the same consequence?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    What is your partners stance?
    He feels he does enough because he will help if asked but I just wish I didn't have to ask and that he will think for himself and just do it.

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    Sounds to me like your hubby isn't on board with your needs yet. Getting him in board is they key to solving the whole family problem. Have a deep and meaningful with him, be VERY specific about your needs and wants. Eg
    1. I need you to (most of the time) identify things that need to be done, without me having to point them out.
    2. I need you to help me come up with a strategy to he the kids to help around the house. And I need you to back me up on the strategy 100% of the time.
    3. I need you to cook dinner 1 night per week

    Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Sounds to me like your hubby isn't on board with your needs yet. Getting him in board is they key to solving the whole family problem. Have a deep and meaningful with him, be VERY specific about your needs and wants. Eg
    1. I need you to (most of the time) identify things that need to be done, without me having to point them out.
    2. I need you to help me come up with a strategy to he the kids to help around the house. And I need you to back me up on the strategy 100% of the time.
    3. I need you to cook dinner 1 night per week

    Good luck
    I think I might try this tomorrow night after the kids are in bed, thank you

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    My DD is 8 & I still need to remind her where the dishes go. She's pretty lazy in nature, is easily side tracked so I remind her and point out if she did things without waiting to be asked she would have more play time. It's working slowly.

    She also use to leave her stuff all over the house, so one day I put it all in a box & covered it in post it notes that had jobs on them. She had to do a job to get an item back, whatever was left in the box at the end of the week went to charity. It was a great way to get my windows cleaned, window sills wiped down & the garden weeded!!


 

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