Hugs hun! 3 sucks serious ***!!!!! Seriously!!!!! Terrible 2s??? Pffffttttt
Tyrant Threes more like it!!!
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04-09-2013 20:02 #11
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04-09-2013 20:07 #12
It is very hard when you love someone, but at times do not like them very much!
I did a Triple P course and found it really helpful, maybe something like that might give you some tips?
Louis...I too am concerned about your comment. For your daughters' and your own sake, please seek some assistance, I can help with contacts if you are in QLD.
04-09-2013 20:15 #13Member
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Threenagers! I was totally the same with my daughter... She's a super bright, strong willed child and I swear... There are days I have to tell my husband to take her away from me for fear of what I'll say or do... I find the more tired, anxious, stressed I am - the worse she behaved. My miss is 6 in November and things are only just getting better. She's more stimulated mentally, I work in some physical activity and use a lot of describing words with her.... I have time out from her every opportunity I get because she has a special knack of pushing my buttons - but by the same token really try to "catch her being good" and praise praise praise even the smallest good behaviour. I also started just "doing" loving things for her to break some of my irritation.. If you act loving you feel loving. (I don't mean I don't love her... Just that I found I was always on the Defence and irritated easily by her that I changed my approach...). I'm still working on it every day...she's getting better. Don't slap her with two younger siblings like I have before trying to build your relationship.... It's tougher... But just love love love her. And give yourself a break... Being a full time SAHM can be soul destroying at times.
Big hugs to you and the other posters trying to survive this glorious life stage called parenting.
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04-09-2013 20:20 #14
I don't feel this way but I think that's because DD goes to care 3 days a week and I work. If I never had any mummy time I would probably feel resentful too.
Louise I do agree with others, there are places and people who can help you cope better. Please for the sake of your child ask for help.
04-09-2013 20:36 #15Member
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I think Louise's comment meant she uses a smack rather than the naughty corner for when she misbehaves and she just had a typo. Hopefully anyway and it's not just when she gets on your nerves.
OP, my DD is not yet 2 and frustrates me so much some days it's just easier to give her the iPad, and then I feel like the worlds worst parent coz she's playing an iPad at 21 months! I'm a full time SAHM with a fifo husband and it gets full on. That week my DP is home I just want my own space, but I want to be with him that much too I still don't get a break! I've been looking into the daycare option as well, it seems to be a good idea even if its just a half day. Big hugs to you and remember you're not alone! My little girl sounds exactly the same just half your girls age! I find if we can get outdoors for an hour or so each day and run wild it's not as bad either, but different ages so I'm not sure! Good luck and stay strong!
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04-09-2013 20:37 #16
OP. I so hear you. My now 5 DD put me through hell and I seriously had concerns that I loved her younger brothet more. It was at the stage I just did not want to be around her and I dreaded the days she wad not in care. It was a constant battle of wills 99% of the time and our relationship was what they call ' fractured'. She was so bad she has literally damaged her vocal cords from hours of tantrums. One went for 4 hours! (In the end I called DH in tears saying please help me.). I have no advice only to say they do grow out of it . DD was 5 in april and the last 3 months has really changed into a sweet, lovely, still stubborn, but good little girl. She still doesn't sleep all night but will return to bed without a fuss. Try and hang in there and it will pass. We also did one 123 magic which worked well for her after a lot of persistence. I do think my DD was overly tired due to waking in the night so much. Now its about 1-2 times a night. Sometimes not at all.
Id love to give advice but I dint have any! Try and keep your patience, take breaks from her when you can. Is she in care? Itd be good for both of you if she was. I found DD was only this bad for me. Although very stubborn at day care she was not naughty and had fun. I was working at the time but those days kept me sane.
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05-09-2013 08:25 #17Senior Member
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Been there done that. 3 is a very hard age...they are so strong willed at that age. Its very normal to feel like this every now and then but if you are feeling like this more than 4 times a week id say it might be time to talk to someone.
Not trying to scare you but i suffered like this for 4 years and always brushed it off as tiredness or 'just being a mum'. Its not. I was terribly depressed and later diagnosed bipolar.
I would wake up some mornings so angry that i had to get and be a mum. I resented my children for being children and let me tell you it was horrible. Im ashamed to admit i would smack my kids for no reason and yell and scream just because i was tired and depressed. I hit rock bottom and started hurting myself just to get though.
Im not saying this is you but it can quickly spiral out of control. It starts with tiredness and frustration and very soon becomes resentment and depression.
Id suggest finding some time for you. Join a gym with a creche and out your DD in the creche for an hour a week and see how you feel. Its normal and healthy to have/want some time away from your child. Are you in a playgroup??
If you dont feel better after this please make an appointment with your child health nurse and tell her whats going on. She can refer you to a GP for depression etc or just lend and ear.
Big . Its hard...trust me I KNOW!!!!
05-09-2013 09:01 #18Senior Member
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I have an 8 year old that makes me feel like that sometimes. We have back answering, rude little so and so, I do no it is only an age and she will get past it, but its so bloddy hard!
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