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27-08-2013 17:17 #31Senior Member
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27-08-2013 17:18 #32
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27-08-2013 17:24 #33
I do the lion's share of the housework, but my dh currently works 6 - sometimes 7 - days a week. He is really very good with doing what is needed around the house, but usually ds just wants to play with him when he gets home. This is more important to me, to enable him to have that time with his son without feeling like there are chores to do. If he were to come home and retreat into a room on the computer or something I would imagine I would be quite resentful, but he genuinely enjoys his afternoons with ds.
Also there are many times (like last night) where he was up for another 2 hours after ds went to bed doing bits and pieces around the house, while I lounged around watching crappy tv.
27-08-2013 17:29 #34
The way it works in our house is I do what I can, when I can. If I'm struggling, I ask for help and dh picks up the slack and sometimes takes over completely until I am fit and well enough to resume. We are a team, we dont divide duties according to fairness, we just work together and do whatever it takes to reach a common goal of raising a well adjusted family. Sometimes dh gets overwhelmed with having to work full time and pull his weight around the house and he asks me for help and I do what I can to ease the weight on his shoulders so it does go both ways but mostly its him pitching in to make my life easier as he has a higher threshold before he loses his bananas.
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27-08-2013 17:36 #35
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27-08-2013 17:37 #36
This is a major bone of contention in our house....
DH is OCD with cleaning and I'm a bit more relaxed... His mum is what I would call a perfect housewife, so he grew up in a house like a showhome with a mum who ironed everything!
I didn't I grew up in a house where (after my siblings were born) it was ok for our toys to be out. DH freaks out about ds's toys laying out!
He also thinks that the housework is how I contribute to the household because I'm not doing so financially. I don't tend to agree there but that's another argument. I have days where I just can't be bothered and as soon as he walks in the door and sees the washing no folded and toys everywhere he gets annoyed.....
Not saying I don't do anything, just ds is a hurricane! I can clean up and half an hour it will be a mess again
I wish it was more 50/50 or that he at least when he comes home would bath and do night routine with ds because he doesn't so any of that
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27-08-2013 18:21 #37Senior Member
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27-08-2013 18:31 #38
For us, dh takes care of outside (mowing, gardening etc) as this is something that he can do on his days off and I do everything else, only asking that he tidies up general mess and takes the rubbish out. With his work hours, there is no way I would want him to do any more.
This would change if I was working.
27-08-2013 19:01 #39
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27-08-2013 20:31 #40Senior Member
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How things happen in my home is ..
I'm a shift worker 4 on 4 off. Dh works mon to fri 6 to 430 and saturdays until 12pm.
On my days off I clean,take care of ds and sometimes cook.
When dh gets home he doesn't clean. He might cook and play with ds for a bit but mainly I still am taking care of ds until bath time.
Between my 4 shifts I still clean. Daycare helps take care of ds. Dh doesn't do much. On night shifts he collect ds from daycare and does his dinner and bed routine.
Doesn't clean one bit.
So when I'm on days off I am cleaning from those nights where kitchen etc is left a mess.
And round we go again.
I suppose this is fair. But sometime on my days off I actually would love a day off. I think that just comes with having kids. We don't get breaks
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