Has anyone got any tips, my 1 month old will sleep anywhere from 10mins to 2hrs at a time. I'm going MENTAL.
I went to a family care centre last week, and they showed me how to settle him, but I still have to do this every 10mins to 2hrs...
He's definitely not hungry (just in case you ask!).
I know he can sleep longer, in the pram he can go for hours, and on my chest for hours too... think he might just be clingy??
I am seriously thinking about control crying, I know this is very controversial but it gets to a point where I am losing my sanity. I heard that around 6 weeks they get better, but what if he doesn't?
He was like that from the start, at the hospital after birth already I didn't get much sleep. I thought it would get better but no...
I have read quite a lot about routines, but implementing a routine when a baby doesn't sleep is impossible (I like the 'wake them up after 4hours to feed them', I wish i had to wake him up!)
I'm thinking of doing the residential stay with Tresilien but just wondering if I'm just worrying for nothing and it will get better with time?
Any tips or advice welcome... thank you.
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25-08-2013 06:47 #1Junior Member
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HELP: 1 month old sleeping pattern
25-08-2013 07:02 #2
Give your bub some time - he is still so tiny. Please, please, please do not do controlled crying on a 1 month old. I'm not pro controlled crying, but even the experts don't recommend doing it until 6 months of age. Your bub sleeps better in the pram and on your chest because of the movement and sound/ smell of you - he has been rocked to sleep by your movement in your womb for the last 9 months.
At this age I would do what works, get him to sleep in the pram or wear him for his naps. I know it can be tough at the start, but it will get better. Both mine have fallen into some sort of loose routine on their own, and TBH trying to implement strict time based routines on such a young baby is going to be tough - they change so much and so quickly over the first year or so it is often easier to just let them take the lead and go with what works.
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25-08-2013 07:04 #3
Honestly I know this isn't helpful but a month old is so tiny. My 10 week old was much the same at that age, only slept in my arms. I would not be doing CC, especially before 6 months. He just wants comfort and closeness. Can you wear him in a sling or wrap at all?
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25-08-2013 07:10 #4
Hun he is normal, I had six kids and that is totally normal for that stage, he will grow and he will sleep better. It all comes in time.
As pp said it because he used to being in you being rocked to sleep as you walked and moved around. He is used to hearing your heartbeat 24/7 and he misses it. It take time for them to get use to the outside world. It also helps with any wind pain he might have.
I would recommend you get a carrier or a stretchy wrap. So that you can baby wear. It will free up your hands a bit.
25-08-2013 07:21 #5
Hey OP first few weeks can be though buy it does get better!
Control crying wont work on a bub that young, they don't understand that you're not coming to pick them up and have no time sense and its my opinion that they cry for a reason... we might never find that reason or it might be as elusive as I don't like the smell of my blanket. Still I suggest you find something, anything that work for you and bub, great ways to get bub to sleep are wearing bub in a carrier or hugabub, a rocker or swing (my DD loved hers and took all day naps till 7months in one) laying down with baby and letting him cuddle up to you. You didn't say what exactly it is that wakes him up but if he falls asleep in your arms make sure he has a blanket aroun him so when you transfer he doesn't feel a sudden shift in temperature also white noise like the radio or tv on low are good and web you place him down you might have to do the holding him while he's down for a few minutes till he relaxes and then you can get your arms out... Had to that for a while!!
sleep promotes sleep so if you find a way that he sleeps even if its in a sling or going for a walk (not long term solutions) he will sleep better in general.
25-08-2013 07:30 #6
You poor thing OP.....sleep deprivation is so tough. As everyone else has said, your little one is so new to the world. He wants movement and to be close to you because that's what he has been used to for 9 mths. I also suggest a carrier. My DS had most of his naps in one for at least 8 weeks or so - the movement and being closed soothed him every time. A swing also worked really well as he loved the movement. Do you have someone who can take the baby while you catch up on some sleep? Someone who can let the little one sleep on their chest, in the pram of carrier might give you a chance to recharge a little.
25-08-2013 07:31 #7
White noise can also be great to help newborns settle to sleep and sleep longer. I got DS2 a Sleep Sheep which plays white noise and ocean sounds - when it's going it helps him move into the next sleep cycle (where they will often wake and can't get themselves back to sleep).
ETA: another thought - are you swaddling him nice and tight when you put him to sleep?
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25-08-2013 07:33 #8
25-08-2013 08:14 #9Senior Member
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Can he sleep in the pram in your house? DD slept in her pram bassinet for the first few months
We used to gently rock her back to sleep in it
25-08-2013 08:24 #10
Can you wear him? Do you have family or friends who can hold him to sleep for you to have a break? 1 month is so tiny, it's going to get better!!
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