In my experience most kids have both genders through to first half of primary, then they tend to go to one sex and half way through high school it goes back to unisex.
I give my kids a guest number limit and they choose who ever they want. Eg you can have 10 kids at the park for a party or 3 to the movies.
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22-08-2013 20:21 #31
22-08-2013 20:28 #32
Nope I just tell them how many kids they can invite and leave it up to them, bar a few veto's of kids that I don't think are great friendships to pursue.
22-08-2013 20:31 #33
First off, when kids are little (eg in kinder) it's a good thing to just invite the boys (or girls) if you are wanting a smaller party. It's not always easy to afford to invite the whole class. We tried that theory out, but there were only 5 girls in his kinder class of 29 (rotational model) so we ditched that theory and invited the whole 29 kids!! (thankfully only about 14 were able to make it as it was during school holidays).
This year his whole class were invited again and of the 19 kids, 17 came!! So, we won't be doing that again.
For next year I'm thinking of limiting it to just 4 of his closest friends perhaps ... he now has more firm friends (he's 6) so that kind of limitation is getting easier. But, I would assume if he only invited 3 or 4 kids at this point, that they would all be boys. I may be wrong, but I may not. It would be his choice though.
22-08-2013 21:19 #34
DS1 had a party when he was 5,and invited lots of girls,and it was awesome,since going to school,he kinda gravitates towards boys,,,and my DS2 has never been keen on girls at kindy.Pretty much all my friends have boys so its a hard one..and I only have one neice.I don't think theres anything wrong with sticking to a gender.I think its totally an age thing,,,and also my DS1 is only interested in skateboarding,rubgy,scooters,,,a girl would probably be bored sh!tless and be outdone by the boys being show offs if she tried to be included.Suck it may be...but that's boys
22-08-2013 21:42 #35Senior Member
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My son is turning 5 next month, and we are having a small party for him, and he only wants to invite boys.
This is because he only wants to be friends with boys. He actively dislikes the girls at kindy, and shuns anything stereotypically feminine, eg. he was sorting through a box of soft toys and threw anything pink in the hallway and told me to throw it in the rubbish bin.
I have tried really hard to explain to him that the difference between girls and boys is not significant, to value girls and women, but he is not interested.
(I swear he does it to defy me, as I'm a feminist, lol)
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22-08-2013 21:43 #36
Ds1 had his first party when he turned 6. We just told him he could pick 8 friends. They just happened to be all boys. Meh, it's his party.
He is friends with boys and girls and I expect if we allowed a party for his birthday next year there would be girls on the invite list. But if there isn't so be it.
I wouldn't push for girls and boys. It's completely up to them. The only time I'd intervene would be like pp have suggested, if it was deliberately excluding a child. That would be an issue.
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22-08-2013 21:58 #37
We have a small yard and a big family... So dd and ds are only allowed to invite 3 school friends to their parties. So far they have stuck to the same gender. I usually give the invitations to the teacher to discreetly slip into the other kids bags. As dd and ds are so close together in age they usually have the same friends at school and all play together in the playground but funnily enough they still chose the same gender for their parties.
23-08-2013 06:30 #38
Ok well I can definitely understand the only boy or only girl phases kids seem to commonly o through - I guess it just skipped me, maybe because I was such a tomboy. I did go through a shyness phase though but still had boy friends at our parties.
Thanks all. Food for thought.
oh wait I just realised I'm going through the no boys phase now! A bit late for me.
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23-08-2013 07:35 #39
It's never occured to me to encourage a particualr gender. I just let him invite whoever (with the limit being numbers). It was girls and boys up until a certain year and than it became just boys.
23-08-2013 09:42 #40
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