Hi all! Just looking for hints on how to make biggish decisions (think leaving/changing work, not leaving/changing partner!). I may be making one soon, and I get caught in the headlights thinking of all the what ifs and can't seem to make a choice without agonising over it. So, help me please!
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20-08-2013 19:38 #1
Help!! Tell me your decision-making process
20-08-2013 19:39 #2Senior Member
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What would I regret the most.
20-08-2013 19:43 #3
OP I could have posted this tonight! I've just made up a pros and cons and I'm going to do a scenario comparison soon too. I like NB's tip too but it doesn't work for my decision because I can have both but which first is my dilemma...
20-08-2013 19:48 #4
I also think seeking out counseling can be really helpful, even if it's just to verbalise and talk through your thinking. It's great to run things by a person with no vested interest in your situation and they can give you skills to help you decide.
20-08-2013 19:49 #5
Im the same, terrible decision making skills! I'm trying to change that because it drives DH nuts, in the past when we'd make a big purchase like a house or an expensive appliance I would not stop looking even after we purchased... I'd tell myself but what if and oh if only... but really there was no point and a waste of time.
If its a goods purchase (house car appliance) I ask myself do I need it, what's my budget, what do I want and what would be best I also do a lot of research and read reviews. Then I try to get the best deal and then I'm done.
If its a life change like moving location, or quiting a job stuff like that I'd try to imagine my day to day life how it would be when I've made that change, really try to picture it and be realistic.
Making a list or just writing down your thoughts might help clear your mind.
20-08-2013 19:50 #6
You only have one chance at life, how do you want to spend it. What's most important to you? What kind if example do you want to set as a mother? In 10 years from now, will you have regret, or be relieved that you made said decision? Good luck!
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20-08-2013 20:43 #7
Flip a coin.
If you are disappointed with the outcome then you know it's not really what you wanted.
You'll find that you want it to come out a certain way once it's in the air.
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20-08-2013 20:50 #8
I look at pros and cons of both then once i have all that in mind, I go with my gut instinct!
20-08-2013 21:22 #9
Hmmm....very interesting. Thanks for all your ideas. Now I have to make a decision about how to make a decision :-p
20-08-2013 21:50 #10
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