My mum would be happy to mind the kids for however long but I couldn't do longer than a weekend away with hubby. I could do a few days and did two weeks in hospital but they were with him. I couldn't go overseas for the same reason as slmeone above said, I would be beside myself trying to get back if something happened. We have been overseas a few times and they have always come.
That's just me, you have to do whatever you are comfortable with and plenty of people do it all the time
+ Reply to Thread
Results 31 to 40 of 64
20-08-2013 15:50 #31
20-08-2013 15:53 #32
It all depends on you and the kids. If you are ok with and would handle it well and if the kids are comfortable with who you are leaving them with then 2 weeks is fine.
i have left my DD for a month with my mother while she was about 2 and half and she did well, and so did II
20-08-2013 16:09 #33
One nights enough for me - I miss them too much. I love the idea of it - but I know in reality I wouldnt enjoy myself because of guilt and worry. I've plenty of time for holidays without them when they are bigger and only such a short time with them needing me so much.
20-08-2013 16:19 #34
I guess it depends on a range of factors, including the kids temperament, the carers and even how the parent feels.
My 22 month old has never spent the night away from me and us bf'd so I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving more than 3 nights max at the moment and probably wouldn't unless I absolutely had to.
But I think if you want to do a trip to Europe, it's probably better to do 2 weeks not 1. As PP says its a long flight and I'd want to give enough time to feel rushed.
20-08-2013 16:20 #35Senior Member
- Join Date
- Jan 2012
Since u asked would we do it, the answer is no I wouldn't.
The max I would leave a 1yo is 1 night and even then I might not be able to do that. A 3yo prob 2 nights, have a 2.5 yo and he would maybe make it two nights so by 3 i think i think he would. I think u said a prep? So 5yoish? Prob up to 4 nights max. My current 5 yo would only prob be 3 nights.
2 weeks I could probably leave my 10 and 16 yos. Maybe. It would be hard actually lol. 10yo would never last though.
Each to their own though. My kids are needy. I'm needy. Our grandparent options are not up to it.
Last edited by grumpysmurf; 20-08-2013 at 16:29.
20-08-2013 16:23 #36
As everyone else has said, it depends on the kids, you, and the carers. I looked after my brothers for 3 weeks while my parents went to Europe (it was my gift to mum for her 40th). The kids were a bit older though, 6, 8 and 10.
20-08-2013 16:24 #37
When I separated from my ex, DS was 3.5. Just before he turned 4 my ex took him to New Zealand for 2 weeks to see his family. Both DS and I coped just fine!
I don't think I'd leave a 1 year old for that long though, they just wouldn't understand that you are in fact coming back, it's impossible to tell them that due to their obvious lack of complex language skills.
My 22 month old stays 2 nights a fortnight with her dad, she copes well but I can see by how she acts when I pick her up that for now two nights is the most I'd want to leave her. I cope just fine though.
20-08-2013 16:26 #38
20-08-2013 16:30 #39
I say go for it! Your going to be coming back and as long as you are all comfortable to leave your kids and the grandparents are happy to have them I think there's no reason not to go. Just enjoy yourselves!
The Following User Says Thank You to mumbron For This Useful Post:
20-08-2013 16:30 #40
Honestly I couldn't even leave my kids one night for anything other than necessity. I am an absolute sook and DS1 especially has huge separation anxiety issues that have only got worse since I was in hospital for two nights with DS2.
My DD who is almost 5 would be ok I think, but even she was upset with me not being home for those two nights, even though DH brought the kids in each day for visits.
By CleverClogs in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & ChatReplies: 15Last Post: 30-05-2013, 09:58
By TrulyBlessed in forum Pregnancy Loss SupportReplies: 6Last Post: 07-01-2013, 14:59
By Little Miss Muffet in forum General ChatReplies: 64Last Post: 31-10-2012, 15:26
The MAMA CentrePregnancy, birth & beyond care with your very own midwife. Home & hospital birth support, VBACs, antenatal & postnatal ...
LATESTToilet training: when is the best time to start?Why it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Netflix - what should I watch?Movies / Music / Books / TV Chat
Testing positive but faintConception & Fertility General Chat
April/May TTC group chatConception & Fertility General Chat
Same sex parents or parents to be chat!Same Sex Parents
IUI - first time fertility treatmentNon-IVF fertility assistance
IVF babies due Sep/Oct/Nov 2017pregnancy and babies through IVF
Mixed slumber partyGeneral Chat