Op it sounds like you are doing everything you can to try and overcome your hurdles. Unfortunately though driving is one of those things that you only get better at with practice. I don't have any other advice but wanted to say you are not alone. I have a sister who has had a licence for many years but also does not drive at all but her family manage.
It sounds like your husband finds it difficult to accept perhaps he could join you in one of the sessions with the psych to get a better understanding? We all have something in life that we struggle with and also strengths in other things that we excel in. Not driving is a hassle but not the end of the world.
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19-08-2013 06:41 #11
19-08-2013 07:26 #12
Maybe it would be a good idea (if you could afford it) to look into a new car that has all those sensors? I think there's ones that tell you when you're not in your lane, front and rear sensors etc.
19-08-2013 07:29 #13
Have you tried hypnotherapy. I had a lot of the fears and anxiety you have mentioned and I found it really helped. I'm absolutely fine driving now (without the kids in the car!).
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19-08-2013 07:29 #14
I hope this doesn't sound like a silly question... but what type of car do you usually drive? I just wonder if it might be too big/high off the road OR not big/high enough...? And that might be making it extra hard for you to gain a good perception of where the perimeters of your car are in relation to everything else. I only mention it because I drove in a hire car recently (some sort of low station wagon) and I literally could not drive the dam thing... and I've been driving various cars for 15 years. I do need to be sitting a bit higher off the road to know where I'm going I think. Might be worth seeing if you can drive someone else's car just down the road to see if it makes things any easier at all
In any case like PP said, I don't think it's exactly the end of the world if you have kids and aren't able to drive.
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19-08-2013 07:39 #15
Sorry to hear of your problem I don't drive either. I left home at 17 and didn't have anyone to teach me, no money for lessons, and I also have poor hand eye coordination (I have my Ls now and one day we will get a cheap auto for me to drive).
It's a pain, but I get by with either walking or public transport (or DH chauffeurs me around ).
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19-08-2013 07:40 #16
Op where are you? My driving instructor gave me actual pointers, not just "trying to visualise". He made me drive to the kerb, park on the line of the concrete & made me line it up with something on my dash.
If you are in Brisbane I would recommend him, he was FANTASTIC and I was a nervous late driver too xx
19-08-2013 07:42 #17
I just stalked your profile & it says QLD, if you're in Brisbane reply here or PM me & I'll give you the details
19-08-2013 08:44 #18
Fears are so strong and my believe is the longer we leave them the more power they get. This is true in my case. I had a mild fear of heights which has turned into this ridiculous issue in which I struggle to walk for example on a second level shopping centre. So I need to address that!
i was just thinking there must be driving schools for people who are really afraid or a driving instructor who has experience in this field. Just a thought thought,mi am really not sure if that's the case.
19-08-2013 08:48 #19
Also in relation to feeling like your too close to parked cars etc.that sounds like a spacial awareness issue that would develop with time. My instructor told me to look out for a faint oil/ petrol line on the road (it's smack bang in the middle) and visualise sitting right on that. I haven't looked for years to see if that line is still there but it made perfect sense at the time!
19-08-2013 08:57 #20
I think you definitely need a professional driving instructor to teach you. It's hard with someone you know teaching you as they get frustrated and you get anxious. So much easier being taught by someone who KNOWS how to teach it - just like with anything- I know I always learnt better from a tutor than my grandpa even though they were both great at math, my grandpa got frustrated when I didn't get it, my tutor found different methods to show me something until I got it.
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