Sometimes the system does get it wrong. Not saying it is so in this case.
Kiesha Abrahams comes to mind and that little boy thrown in a lake in a suitcase.
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Oh that is easy - when I was in a really bad way, I didn't follow up with MCHN's or GPs, didn't go to mothers group etc. It's easy to do.
15-08-2013 21:05 #107
I'm out, I can't think about this anymore. It's just too awful.
15-08-2013 21:06 #108
If you ever really want to understand mental illness I'm happy to chat. I'm very open about what I have been through even though it is one of the most shameful and darkest periods of my life.
I read the part where the psychiatrists argue the brisbane mum has moments where she plays computer games, feeds her older kids etc so can't possibly be severely depressed.
All through my illness I had trouble finding someone to help me because I still looked "okay". I still showered, brushed my teeth/ hair, put on make up. My kids were still obviously cared for. They were clean, fed, not distressed or neglected in obvious way. And yet almost everyday I would fight depressive thoughts and feel like there was no other option but to take my life and to stop my babies suffering I would take them too. Normal people don't think that.
I guess my point is like with everything in life, mental illness can manifest itself in many different kinds of ways. Your not bat sh*t crazy every minute of the day. Some days I did actually cope okay, some days I was acutely aware of how "not right in the head I was" and the guilt, shame and fear would often drive me deeper into depression. Some days I was so close to the edge a breeze would have blown me over.
ive said it before. I never looked depressed.. And that was probably my biggest hurdle to finding help. I look like a "together" mum. If god forbid I hadn't have gotten help and done something unimaginable to myself or my babies I'm exactly the kind of mum that would be burned at the stake in the media. I'm the perfectly dressed mum at school pick ups that everyone on here bishes about. I'm the mum that lives in a nice house, whose dh earns good money, drives a SUV, who has a cleaner and had a nanny...... And even with all of this, I still got PND. Because mental illness doesn't discriminate who it targets.
When my family finally realised (and it took a long while) that I was so dangerously unwell. I was lucky enough to have them find me the best hospital and psychiatrists, dh hired me a cleaner and a nanny and payed for me to attend a mental health day program to learn coping strategies.
I dare say that poor brisbane mum didn't have anyone in her life that cared enough to step up and point her in the right direction and sadly it sounds like she also never had access to the same quality mental health care that was afforded to me. I think she was let down on so many levels and while I suspect she may suffer for the rest of her life, I hope she finds some kind of peace and forgiveness for herself. Her babies never should have died and they probably wouldn't have if someone had of helped her sooner.
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15-08-2013 21:07 #109
Due to privacy laws the dept cannot give out info when deaths occur as to the nature of their involvement. But there is often far more context and info involved.
15-08-2013 21:08 #110
I am high risk, and I guess she just wanted to make sure I wasn't hiding anything or avoiding her.
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