I had an old woman give me a filthy look and insinuate that I was a bad person when I was pregnant because I'm not married. She commented about not having a ring etc and her tone was really *****y too. I couldn't really say anything because I was at work and she was a customer but I would have loved to just have a go at her. For starters, who cares if I'm married or not, it has no effect on my parenting and also, I am engaged but couldn't wear my ring because my fingers got so swollen in my last trimester, so even if I had been married I wouldn't have been wearing my rings anyway so what right does she have to assume?
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13-08-2013 16:39 #31Senior Member
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13-08-2013 17:12 #32Senior Member
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Amazing how people like to comment.... I don't mind a bit of judging while I am out and about...whoa look at her shoes....can her shorts show anymore cheek!?!? But these are not comments made loud enough for those people to hear.
In one shopping trip, in a woolies, I had 2 elderly people comment on how well behaved my children were, must be the parenting, etc, etc. nekminnut... the last food section, looking for peas and I let both boys go ahead to look for them... an elderly person states... you should not have children if you cannot control them!!! Seriously... I do take these things to heart thou so I just death stared him and thought to myself grumpy old man, then it played over and over in my head for the next hour or two. Only to be remembered 2 yrs later by this thread!
I wonder if those who make don't have children if you can't control them even have children? Don't they remember taking their children shopping?
I can't say I have ever had comments about being a single mother for not wearing my wedding rings. I also don't seem to notice looks or stares so lucky for me!
13-08-2013 17:33 #33
I just got a phone call from centrelink today about the rude comments i had from their workers to my ds and dd. It was nice that called me and apologized.
One was yelling at my 13 for not knowing his crn.
The other was telling my dd to grow the hell up and calling her immature because she suffers a mental illness.
DD also got nasty comments about being a young mum when she had ds2 in her arms. Ds3 is starting to get them now. My kids just turn around and tell them not to be so dam rude, that they are actually giving there mum a break and don't they feel like a fool now.
Isn't sad that they have to have a set thing to say as it has happen that often.
I had nasty comments about feeding a baby a bottle of water in 40 degree heat because I should be breastfeeding and comment that breastfeeding is disgusting and i shouldn't be doing that.
The ones that really bother me are the old men that feel the need to be rude in sexual way when they comment on how many kids we have, in front of the kids.
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13-08-2013 17:37 #34
I remember when I was about 16/17 I would grab my sisters baby son sometimes to give her a break, and one day went to the supermarket with him. It wasn't long that I found out a huge rumour had started at high school about me having a baby.
Um, you DO have to be pregnant first before giving birth???
13-08-2013 17:50 #35
I was at a training session last week with other foster carers and some were commenting that teachers have pretty negative attitudes about children in care and assume that they are all trouble makers because they are in out of home care. It was advised to tell the principle that they are only to disclose the info on a strict needs to know basis and not tell every staff member so the child doesn't suffer from discrimination because they are in care. This has me really worried for my DS's future.
13-08-2013 17:51 #36
13-08-2013 18:22 #37
What an old vag rash!
13-08-2013 18:55 #38
I used to "babysit" my best friend's bother with her at a similar age. Sometimes when people would look, we'd start holding hands and acting all smitten with each other, and she had the ability to push the muscles forward in her stomach so she looked pregnant... so she'd do that. lol. Give them something to judge.
I also had one of the "Baby Think it Over," dolls that you get in some schools... a nightmare of a "toy" that weighs the same as a newborn, cries all freaking night, you have to hold a key in its back etc. I had it from Friday afternoon to Monday morning, and decided that I'd rather people think I was 15 with a baby than 15 carrying around a doll... so it was always in it's bonnet, getting cradled or in its capsule. SO many people tsk tsked me. It made me giggle tbh.
The only time random strangers looking at me bothered me was when I was shopping with my father, and people assumed he was a dirty old man (which, to be fair, is not far from the truth... lol) and that I was his young wh*re (EW!). I didn't much like that. People were shaking their heads and whispering. Same would happen if we went to lunch together. Yuck.
These days, people just act shocked when they realise that I'm the mother of an 8-year-old. I'm 27... but people tend to think I'm younger (maybe 23/24). Sometimes they fish around trying to see how old I am... or when I had her... etc. But meh. I'm not ashamed of that so I don't feel too bothered.
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