I love asshats! Hope that's what you meant Rushie! Even if not I'll be using that
Ah Nomie, so sorry that your colleague is utd - seems so unfair. I had to tell a close friend about me being utd last weekend, she had an mc at 11 weeks about 6 weeks ago. I felt so so bad, I didn't want to upset her (though she knew that we were trying) and I didn't want her to find out from another friend. I haven't heard from her since, will just give her some time and hopefully she'll be utd again before soon. Same with you! Your time will come xx
I for one am very glad there ain't two in there!! One is hard enough!!
Trio was so glad to see your post, sounds like your dh is feeling a bit happier, hope you get a bit of baby lovin' tonight :thumbup:
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02-09-2013 18:15 #391Senior Member
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02-09-2013 18:28 #392
We had many family members that decided to tell everyone else in the family
but felt that telling us by themselves would be awkward. One lot rang when all the other family members, including us, were together and told everyone over speaker phone - of course everyone was watching our reaction. This has been the typical thing of telling everyone at once. Back then it was infertility and now it's miscarrying. I know when we fell we told our friends first as they were not able to have a second child for many years. I think a personal message or pre-warning is definitely the way to go - just to be able to get your head and attitude right in case you're having one of "those" days.
We also had family ask if we were doing it right. But then we also had offers of surrogacy - wish I had that option now! But I do wonder if they would have baulked (sp?) at the process as they are a little prudish and like to keep their dignity intact!
We've had around 10 rounds of clomid now and no twins from that, but we did conceive twins naturally last November - stupid body refused to incubate them though.
DH and I have been discussing whether or not to try again. We have lost all trust in our specialist and their abilities/knowledge and can't believe they weren't more proactive when we raised concerns over the first ultrasound. I do wonder if we could have saved the pregnancy from that point if correct treatment had followed. How do you get through to your specialist that you think that they are a complete nong-head? Though asshat could also be used here.
On the other hand we were so looking forward to having a fourth child and the healing that would come with them. I feel like I've been such a bad mum over the last year and a half as I've been pregnant for about 40 of those weeks and having to live like I could be for some of the rest. Also fitting in dieting to get rid of the baby weight each time, appts and costs - both financial and emotional. BUT - how far away would our little bubba be - it could be next, but then again we were assured of what was wrong this time and that it should be good to go, only to kill another child in utero.
At what point do you call it? Of course, if it was our first we would keep on going, but perhaps we should be content and just stop. I do worry how I would go psychologically giving up though too. Will I always feel defeated and regret not trying just one more time? Is there a more serious health condition that underlies what's going on that I should push to find out about?
Sorry - headspace is quite messy at the moment. Tablets didn't work yesterday and still appear not to have worked today. Hopefully body will kick in and do something it's supposed to do so that I can get out and do things again.
Edit: I think bub has just come out. No pain, but bleeding has eased. Couldn't throw them in the bin. So wrapped them in loo paper for now and will bury tomorrow in a nice box in the garden.
Last edited by Little Ted; 02-09-2013 at 19:08.
02-09-2013 19:30 #393
Oh little ted you poor thing what a rough trot you are having. Life is so unfair and cruel at times. My heart is breaking for you, and I have tears....I don't really know what to say, I'm not sure theres anything I can say that would help. You have probably heard it all before, and then some, and the last thing is want is to be patronising. just know we are all thinking of you while you work through this. Sending you huge healing hugs.
Afm, had ewcm last night and today. Having some cramps in the right area now. Fx its o. I predicted it today, cd21. We dtd cd19, I done the whole proped up on a pillow, legs in the air, bicycling thing lol...will try again tonight. Thats the only difference I can think of that I know we done with my mc, ds, and chem? But I've not done it since as I figured it didn't help. If we her utd this cycle ill swear by that method. Haha.
Announcements and announcing pregnancy is so hard!
I've been on the receiving end of my niece announcing, while I was still mcing .... I went to a very dark place after, I couldn't talk to her, it hurt to be in the same room, of course, being the first great grand child, everyone swooned over her, I kept thinking "that should be me!" I swallowed my pride, put the hurt aside and got her a small gift for bub and gave it to her...I couldn't say anything but gave her a hug, I burst into tears (even now, 3yrs on I have tears thinking of the hurt) but it helped me to heal. Little did I know a few weeks later is get my bfp
I've also got a friend who had been ttc 2yrs+ for #2, and one ttc#1 for about 9 yrs... I've casually mentioned, only to them, that we were ttc too when it come up. I figured that they would at least know to expect out and can prepare themselves...its what id like to hear from someone I was close too, if I had been ttc unsuccessfully...
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02-09-2013 20:27 #394
LittleTed I have no words.... I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's a terrible time, make sure you rest up and take whatever time you need to grieve and recoup. You might feel at times that this is it, but trust me, this will make you a stronger person, I promise!
Pm me if you need. Thinking of you.
Angel Baby ~Skye~ 21/11/2012
03-09-2013 06:56 #395
Little ted we are all here for you. None of this is your fault and you haven't done anything wrong. Take time to heal. Take time to think things over. Nothing has to be decided now. Big hugs little ted. The right decision will come when you are ready. Thinking of you.
03-09-2013 07:29 #396
My nan passed away today. She fought hard & surprised us all.
She is at peace now & back with her true love after a long time apart <3
I know she will make sure all the BH angel bubs are doing ok up there x
03-09-2013 08:37 #397
03-09-2013 08:38 #398
So I got my blood work back today and my levels at 4 weeks 4 days were 1200 and yesterday at 5 weeks 3 days were 9500 so have definitely doubled but they don't seem too high do they? Dating scan next Thursday.
03-09-2013 08:39 #399
So sorry to hear Calstar xx
Little Ted... big big hugs!!! We are all here to listen and support you.
03-09-2013 09:06 #400
Big hugs Little Ted, we are thinking of you and we are here for you.
Calstar, I'm so sorry to hear of your nan's passing. Hugs to you.
Turns out the lady who is pregnant at work is 44 years old! Wow that is amazing. She was very shocked also. She thought she was experiencing menopause symptoms. Not pregnancy symptoms!! It's my first day working with her today.
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