If you truly want to marry this man, it doesn't matter if it's early next year or 5 years from now, as long as you are happy.
I would be postponing until you're sure.
I think it's only fair that you share expenses, he needs to realise you're a family.
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30-07-2013 14:23 #11
30-07-2013 14:50 #12
I don't think those are small issues. Money is one of the most common reasons marriages fail. If there are issues now then I would definitely get them sorted before even considering going ahead with the wedding.
I suppose above all I would be concerned that he doesn't WANT to contribute financially - what could be more important to him than supporting his child?
30-07-2013 14:58 #13Senior Member
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Well well well he went to the mall with his Mum and must have known he was pushing my buttons lately and he came home with a card written on behalf of baby saying I'm the best mummy in the world and some chocolates, lotto and scratchie.
So it's a start and a good opener to discuss this joint account again!
I don't expect him to change over night but if I can get him to pay the 50% of costs I will be happy.
I guess I need to see a fast improvement over the next mth to go ahead with the wedding. I do need to be honest with him too and tell him my concerns.
30-07-2013 14:59 #14Senior Member
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How he is behaving is really unfair & isn't a partnership.
However & I say this with love😀he behaves this way as you have let him get away with it. It's started out in small ways & rolled into big ways of acting like a douche & getting away with it.
I've been there & done that & NEVER again, there are plenty of other men out there who aren't like this.
What to do from here? Decide on your boundaries, write a list of what you want, need & expect. Keep referring back to your list & give him a kick up the a$$ every time he strays from your list.
You should be kicking back & enjoying your hard to get bub x
30-07-2013 15:01 #15
to be honest, I would approach him and say "now that we are getting married, and have a baby together ... lets pool all of our money into 1 bank account"
Talk about the financial commitments you have as a family, what you are prepared to spend on what and work out together your financial path ...
then, if you cant work things out perhaps think about postponing the wedding
31-07-2013 11:41 #16Senior Member
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Success! Maybe I am part of the problem I do need to pick the right time to discus things...we have adjusted our automatic payments into our joint acc so bubs is fully covered!
Thanks for the support.
31-07-2013 11:53 #17
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