Answering the op, if I couldn't breast feed this time I would use formula. But I don't see it as "resorting" to anything, I see it as doing the best I can to ensure my baby was happy and healthy.
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05-08-2013 08:09 #211Senior Member
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05-08-2013 09:08 #212
I haven't posted in here yet as I don't usually discuss my views on bf or ff, but I have to agree with Delerium. I recall maybe 18 months ago there was a massive scare about contaminated cows milk at one of the dairy manufacturers in NSW (from memory) and no one was saying we shouldn't continue to give our kids cows milk - just that people needed to be careful about which brand they selected.
I have never understood why people give a tinker's cuss what other women feed their babies. No one I know personally makes these decisions lightly, and often they are bound up with a lot of exhaustion and guilt. Personally I am tired of this topic on BH as it seems to have become an acceptable area for some people to make others feel guilty (usually unintentionally).
05-08-2013 10:43 #213
My 9yr old DS was FF from 6weeks by necessity. My DD was FF from 8weeks and so far so good.
I think people can be passionate about their choices and beliefs without being cruel and nasty about others. Some of us who FF have no other choice...some have tried and tried and tried to give their child breastmilk through BF and EBM and havent been able to make it work. What these people need is support for their struggle, not to come here and read so many hurtful things being said about FF. People need to learn to shut up sometimes.
I thought I was totally cool with FF my daughter, but every fiber of my being felt horribly guilty as I stood in the formula isle trying to decide which one to try. Why? Because of the nasty sh!t that has been said on this forum about FF. When DS had to be FF I wasnt on BH and just figured I was doing what was right for my child.......breastmilk gone, oh well I'll go get some formula. This time around I felt like there were people who would be tut-tutting me as I put the formula in my trolley or on the check out. My daughter has been formula fed for weeks now and I still get this horrible feeling whenever I buy her formula.
People need to think a bit before spouting off hurtful comments. You might think its just your opinion and people can take it, but some mothers are fighting a private struggle that you arent aware of and comments can linger alot longer than a thread lasts.
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I'm an early childhood teacher and I have spent my career teaching little people how to share their opinions sensitively without hurting people's feelings... Maybe some of us need to revisit this lesson.
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05-08-2013 12:32 #217Senior Member
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I agree with the others. At the end of the day, I really don't get why anyone else cares so much about what others are feeding their babies. And lets be clear here, it isn't like we are all like can't BF so lets feed our kids coke.
We are talking about FFIng, not poison, not even water, not cows milk.
And very interesting how no one has mentioned the study I linked twice on this thread that found almost no difference between health, life, obesity everythng in formula fed babies and breastfed babies.
05-08-2013 12:45 #218
I see your point, I do, I don't actually use donor bm from strangers (i use formula from time to time though) but I do recognise how unlikely it is that someone would bother getting trashed then pumping. Most people on HM4HB state they don't drink, smoke or take drugs, it just seems kind of ridiculous to lie to make people take your alcohol laced breast milk, you know? I know there are some weirdos out there but there's no gain for anyone in that scenario. Also you can flash heat or home pasteurise (http://www.eatsonfeetsresources.org/?page_id=257 ) to remove the risk of exposure to HIV and other illnesses.
I don't assume that formula is bad altogether- it was fine for DD1- just that it cold be better- I don't think anyone would object to improved formula options
05-08-2013 12:49 #219
Beebs I didn't see the link sorry!
Was it the one posted in the Bottlefeeding section not so long ago?
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