I’m feeling up today after 18 months I have a new man in my life again.
He is nice, gentle caring to me and my child and right now that feels so good.
Like all good stories there is a down side Iam happy at the sake of someone else’s loss.
He wasn’t quite up front when we first met and it has unfolded that he has a wife and children? And that relationship wasn’t going well so here we are Happy for me but can’t stop thinking about her, as that’s what happened to me 20 months ago.
What do we do with these men who just see the other side and go for it leaving behind the collateral damage for their families to take care of and live with?
While I love the company, in some wild moments I want to send him home.
What do we think, I love the physicality of this new love/friend but I can’t help but think ahead Spending the next ?? years with a two timer.
OMG my belly quivers at being passed over again (been there done that) and it’s not good, is this the new order of masculine behaviour.
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23-07-2013 07:47 #1Member
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I have a new man in my life
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23-07-2013 07:49 #2
He did it to her, what's to stop him doing the same to you when the next woman comes along? He lied to you, he lied to her. I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him.
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23-07-2013 07:54 #3
I think for me, I'd be very cautious and skeptical. I'm a firm believer in once a cheater, always a cheater- in generally most cases. However, I have a very good friend that cheated on her ex husband with the man she is with now and they have 1 child together (no previous children) and she is in no way a serial offender.
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23-07-2013 08:00 #4
Is he still in a relationship with his wife? Right now?
23-07-2013 08:02 #5
If I found out the guy I had fallen for had a secret wife and kids, I'd be running for the hills. How deceitful.
For him to do the dirty on his family whilst being completely dishonest with you...well, that speaks volumes about his character.
I'd be questioning his morals and worrying that he'd ditch me when someone else catches his eye.
23-07-2013 08:07 #6
I really want to be all happy and how awesome for you.....but from what you've written I'm getting he's still with his wife.
Sure things may not have been going well for them, but is it they are separated but not divorced yet or just going through a rough patch?
I really hope I have read it wrong. That he's separated but not yet divorced. If that's the case, then great! I wish you all the best for this new relationship
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23-07-2013 08:13 #7
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23-07-2013 08:24 #8
Let get this right.
You were cheated on
You met a man who lied to you
You met a man who by default cheated on you (with his wife)
You met a man that treated you like a piece of dirty meat.
You think this is wonderful and you are worried that he might pass you over.
What do you do to him? KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
YOU DESERVE A MAN WHO LOVES YOU THIS IS NOT LOVE.
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23-07-2013 08:34 #9Senior Member
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I think you are possibly settling for second best as you were obviously really hurt in your past relationship.
I'm sure it's a nice feeling to have someone who appears that they care for you... But this guy sounds like a great manipulator...
Like everyone else has said, leave him before you get even more involved & wait for someone truthful & loyal.
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24-07-2013 13:05 #10
After going through this myself recently - while I was pregnant with our 2nd child - there's no way I'd ever trust a family man who cheated, E.V.E.R. I thought I knew my husband and best mate of 10years - turns out I didn't.
I get these things happen when we are young, hell I did it myself when I was stupid and naive! But to me, once kids/marriage is involved, it is/should be a different ball game. If a man can disrespect his own marriage and children in this way, he'll never be trustworthy IMO.
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