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22-07-2013 15:56 #101
22-07-2013 16:01 #102
Would you make this comment about someone reporting child abuse? Because let's face it that could be labeled as 'dobbing' too.
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22-07-2013 16:22 #103
it would probably depend if i liked them or not.
but i would only do it from a moral standpoint, not because i was jealous or bitter about our different circumstances.
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22-07-2013 16:29 #104
I understand civic duty but for me this doesn't supersede my loyalty nor moral duty to my family. As beebs said unless they were neglecting their children in some way then it's out of the question for me especially without being upfront about it.
How close is this family member OP? Why not confront them about it first if you feel so strongly about it?
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22-07-2013 16:34 #105Senior Member
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I think that family dynamics may have something to do with it. My brother doesn't defraud the system (at least, I don't think he does), but at the end of the day, I love him and I look out for him and I try and protect him. If he did defraud the system, I'd let him have it for sure, but if push came to shove, I honestly don't think I could start a chain of events where he could end up in jail - as long as he wasn't hurting anyone I mean. Me myself - I have never defrauded anyone, even when really struggling - so I would be really upset if I did find out he was doing something like that.
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22-07-2013 17:44 #107
22-07-2013 17:48 #108
Tell me who it is and I'll dob them in myself!
That's our tax payers money and she's taking advantage and I find that appalling! We work our asses off and they buy new cars and houses that makes me so angry!!
people like that deserve the consequences of their actions!
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22-07-2013 17:59 #109
Thanks for all the replies they have really given me lots of different perspectives.
I think what some posters have said about an anonymous letter is a great idea as you would hope it would be enough to stop them claiming which is the result I want, without them being punished in a way that would cause me guilt or negatively effect their children. However as someone earlier said the fact that they have been claiming for years and gotten away with it despite many people knowing tells me that they would probably ignore any letter or just start lying and say they have stopped claiming. So based on this I don't think it would achieve anything.
I also feel that my duty to be loyal to family outweighs my duty to report fraud/theft whatever you want to call it. As much as i would like to see them forced to repay the money they fraudulently claimed i could not play a part in sending this person to jail. I don't agree with what they are doing and I have been vocal about that to others as well as warned them of the consequences should they be caught. Perhaps I will take previous posters advice and make it clear to them how I feel about what they are doing but again given there attitude I don't think it will achieve anything other than frustrate me because I won't be listened to.
In saying all of this I wish that someone else would be braver then me and report them. I think it's our 'cant be a dobber' attitude that makes it so easy for people like this to get away with it and it costs out country a fortune. Its sad to see people take advantage of a system created to help those that are disadvantaged.
22-07-2013 19:44 #110
I've never seen "dobbers wear nappies," elicit that kind of response outside of a playground before!
I am fairly certain it was a comment made in humour... and I am even more certain that those who responded to it took it FAAAAAAAR more seriously and read WAAAAAAY more into it than needed.
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