My baby is due next week. Il give a bit of background into the situation. We were together a few months and we got pregnant very soon. She already has a child and was out of a four year relationship. She was upset to be pregnant and I tried to comfort her and show her I would be there but she kept lashing out and her interest in the relationship fizzled. Eventually, I decided to man up and say I would be there for the baby however I dont want to be in a relationship with this woman. I immediately regretted breaking up with her and tried to reconcile a few times since. To no avail. Last attempt was a few months ago. We still talk on the phone occasionally and texts etc. I just wanted to see if anyone had any experience of co-parenting a new born baby. Ive been to the scans and I have told her I want to be there for the child 100% and willing to make an effort. We broke up 6 months ago. To be honest guys, I still have feelings for her. I would love to put the past behind us and work towards having a family with her, but she has neither asked or hinted for this to happen. Has anyone else been in a similiar situation? She has told me I am going to he on the birth certificate also which I suppose is good! Does the Mother's mood/feelings towards the man change when the baby is born? Or what way should I play things between now and the baby is born and beyond? MANY THANKS
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15-07-2013 21:45 #1Junior Member
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16-07-2013 09:58 #2
Sounds like a tough situation and you have my sympathies. My advice would be to offer her all your help but let her decide what she will take.
I strongly advise against trying to sort out your relationship at the same time. It sounds like she is not interested at the moment and if you focus on the baby then she may come around. Once the baby is older and your ex is in a routine/good place then you can re-visit the relationship thing.
It is important you just be there! All the best
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16-07-2013 17:15 #3Junior Member
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Thanks Brad! I suppose at this stage I have made my position clear that I regret the breakup and she can process that information whichever way she likes. At the end of the day im not particularly interested in chasing a woman that does not want to be with me. I wont lie, I have been kind of holding on to the hope that we can have a chance of reconciliation after the child is born. But if she doesnt want to be with me and goes out and meets somebody else I dont know how I will handle it!
Suppose I have to wait.
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