Still contemplating whether or not to have a second and just want to know if you had another and just quietly wish you stopped at 1.
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14-07-2013 16:06 #1
Do you ever wish you stopped at 1 child?
14-07-2013 16:11 #2
i was happy after 1 and had no plans for number 2. I was also an only child and quite liked it so had no desire for another..... However life had other plans for me and I fell pregnant again accidently when ds was just 4 months old. Along came dd and she is the greatest blessing and I cant imagine life without her...However my children are only 13 months apart and especially when they were little and I was struggling I did sometimes (actually it was quite regularly) wish Id only had one child like I planned.
They are 3 and 4 now and the greatest loves of my life and iam so glad I have them both.
14-07-2013 16:17 #3Senior Member
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No. Even though some days are hard I find it amazing that I can 'love' so much. I was worried that I wouldn't feel as much love or I would have to half the love I had for DS1. I didn't and that is an amazing feeling. It sounds silly now but these were real concerns for me. I really love watching my children interact and knowing that if something happens to DH and I that my children have each other. We don't have a big family and I actually felt it was a little bit of our responsibility to give DS1 more of an immediate family. I really like the lessons they have had to learn having a sibling (sharing objects/our attention). I know only children can learn these but it is regularly reinforced having a sibling.
14-07-2013 16:20 #4
Sometimes I think I can see how much easier it would be but I know I would be missing a part of myself. Like RippaRita I have a close first age gap (14mths) I didn't find it tricky then but I do now!
14-07-2013 16:21 #5
Very occasionally when I'm having a hard time, and feeling completely overwhelmed, yes, but most of the time I really love seeing the 3 of them interact.
It's more about sheer workload for me, it can be tough when you are on your own.
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14-07-2013 16:26 #7
I dearly dearly love my two children but regular wish id only had one...
Just how much easier everything would be and I feel id be able to focus more on my child instead of struggling to give attention and parent both my children as a single mum. I do feel terribly guilty for saying this. And I do love them both so much and cant imagine not having one of them.
There are pro's and cons for both situations.
I can say seeing my children play together and how much they love and care for each other is the greatest thing in the world.
14-07-2013 16:35 #8
NO. Even my surprise babies only days after the are born I couldn't imagine my life without them. Don't get me wrong someday i wish i didn't have all 5/6 with at that exact moment but no i have wished them all away.
14-07-2013 17:00 #9
Not at all. And my second (DD) was hard work as a bub. Even during that time I had no regrets. Now at 7 and 4 they are simply awesome!
14-07-2013 17:03 #10-
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While I had major pnd after my second....not for one moment have I ever regretted having her
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