I try not to judge. I don't see a problem with a SAHP having their child in daycare for 1-2 days a week. Any more than that though and I probably would silently judge TBH. If you're able to be at home then why not spend it with your child rather than paying others to raise your child for you? There are also limited spots in daycare in a lot of areas, so it's not really fair on those who actually NEED those spots. I understand that there are exceptions - I know of someone with mental health issues who had her child in daycare 5 days, although she didn't work, as she was aware that she wasn't really capable of raising her child full-time. I can understand in those kind of circumstances, and in her case daycare was needed just as much for her child as it is for children of working parents.
Each to their own though.
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11-07-2013 12:13 #71
11-07-2013 12:14 #72
Mine went at 9 months . Partly for me and partly for him . We don't see many people and he's thrived in care. He goes two days and I now work 1.
11-07-2013 12:19 #73Junior Member
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I would judge a parent for sending a child 5 days a week if they are not working or studying at least, absolutely.
First off, you would not be a SAHP. You would be a dole bludger. I would question their motives for wanting to be parents in the first place. I do not understand how any capable person (not disabled or mentally ill) would need to do this.
I am at a position now that whilst as well as studying, I am looking for part time work. I have a 7 week old. I NEED to put him in care for at least 2 days a week as soon as I get a job.. Not because I want to, but because I have to. I would hope that when this happens I find a space to place my child because of this fact, and not have no hope all because someone wants to do nothing during the day, 5 days a week.
So to the OP, no judgment.. I get it, and I think it is really beneficial for the social interaction of the child.. But 5 days is where I would draw the line.
11-07-2013 12:19 #74
11-07-2013 12:20 #75-
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Nope, I don't judge (it's none of my business really!).
What ever works best for each family is fine by me
And casual clothes for the daycare drop-off are fine! I don't think clothes outside of a workplace are always indicative of employment status anyway? (if that's what the judging was about?)
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11-07-2013 12:21 #76
I haven't read all the posts, but as long as working parents get priority (both of places and in choice of days) I have no problem with it!
My DS was going to daycare twice a week, and I changed jobs requiring me to put him in on a Wednesday as that was a day I was now required to work. They had no vacancies so told one of the non-working parents that they would need to swap their child's day from a Wednesday to a Friday. They weren't happy, but the policy is that working and studying parents get first preference.....
11-07-2013 12:22 #77
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11-07-2013 12:25 #78Senior Member
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I have no problem with people that want to put their children into care 1 or 2 days a week if they can afford it or whatever. The problem I have is that where I'm from the waiting lists for a childcare centre can be between 18 months - 2 years. It takes me up to 6 months after I wanted care for my SIBLINGS to get in the days I need. The only thing I get annoyed about is when I know people who are using spots when they don't work when I actually need to work and struggling because I can't go to work because of no childcare spots that are being taken up by people that don't work. If I were to live in an area where childcare wasn't a problem and wasn't full everywhere I'd have no problem whatsoever. I also don't judge a person if they don't work but have their children in care. I'd probably think it a bit weird if they had their children in care 5 days a week and not working but even then.. meh whatever they want to do.
11-07-2013 12:35 #79
How do people know if other parents are SAHM or not anyway...? Don't really understand, do they wear a sign proclaiming it or something? They could very well be WAHM or work in a casual environment.
11-07-2013 12:38 #80
Also, as part of registering for daycare, do you have to declare your employment status? I really don't think that's anyones business, the supply of daycare should simply meet the demand, whatever parents do for a living. Sounds like a fairly backward system really...
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