I have no issues with SAHPs using daycare a couple of days a week. It's great for child development and most kids love it! Plus every parents needs a break
I get annoyed however, with a lady at my daycare who is a SAHM and drops her 6 month old off at 7.30 and picks her up at 5.30 every day of the week... She says looking after her house is a full time job so she treats daycare as if she was working full time.
Aside from the fact I feel for the poor kid, our daycare currently has a waiting list for the baby room and I'm sure it's taking up a spot for someone who needs to go back to work.
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11-07-2013 07:27 #31Senior Member
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Daycare for us is a necessity as I have to work otherwise we just wouldn't get by. although DS is only in 2 days per week (I can only work 2 days) but te rest of the time I look after him.
I totally get SAHM sending them a few days per week for a break or even just to catch up on chores, but I do feel for kids who r sent full time while mum stays home coz lets face it, little kids do love being by mummy. Yes it's great for their social skills and learning new things but what about the lack of family bonding time etc. at least IMO working mums who work FULL time have a valid reason for sending their kids full time. And no I don't mean to offend by that comment or judge!! I'm just saying I find it hard to believe a SAHM doesn't have time to look after her child herself.
That's probably come out wrong. Sorry if it has. Just trying to explain a different perspective.
I don't judge anyone sending their kids to daycare. There are some weeks where I wish I had more days to myself, but I love spending time with my DS so I can't imagine sending him full time if I wasn't working. I miss him too much.
11-07-2013 07:44 #34
You just said kids love being with their mum, so why do working parents have children if they are just going to send them to care?
I don't see how you can be against one, but not the other?
What if that SAHP is doing volunteer work? Caring for a sick family member? Has PND?
11-07-2013 07:52 #35
OP, I am a SAHM and sent DD1 to daycare one day a week at 2 because she would not ever leave my side and it was starting to affect her socially. It was hands down the best thing we did. Everyone commented within 6 months at the change in her. Best of all DD loved it and asked to go more than one day a week. Even though she doesn't go to daycare anymore (she is at kinder now) we still catch up with 3 of her daycare friends regularly.
DD2 didn't have the same social issues and coud easily have not gone, however I saw how much DD1 loved it so decided to send her as well.
Now for the honest part....I freaking love the one day a week where the kids are in kinder/daycare. Want to know what I do....well some days I come home, make a coffee, sit down and watch TV. Sometimes I don't start tidying up until an hour before I have to go do the pick ups. Tell that to your judgey people. It'll likely send them into meltdown mode.
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I have been a sahm and used daycare. I was suffering with major pnd and both my dr and psych told me to put my little ones into daycare for two days per week and wow, what a difference it made to my mental health at the time and it allowed me to get the theropy I needed without having to bring baby and toddler to the clinic with me. I haven't used it with my last three little ones as I haven't needed to now that my mental health has improved a lot. I do/will send them to a private kindy and pre-prep that I have been using for all my kids once they turn 3 so they get the independence they need before they go to school. There are soo many daycares out there now...I have three within 1km of my house!
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11-07-2013 07:59 #38
My DS goes 2 days a week, he is 16 months and has been going since he was 12 months.. I'm a SAHM but my hubby does FIFO.
DS only has short days 9-3/4 pm and I would have preferred to only have the one day but apparently it's harder for them to adjust if its only one day..
Sure, some people have said some backhanded stuff about him being in care, but he loves it! And it gives me a chance to catch up on house work or finally get a little nap in (DS is a horrible sleeper) if he didn't enjoy it so much, I wouldn't think twice about pulling him out!
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11-07-2013 08:01 #39
I don't think it's wrong, it's much easier to get things done when they aren't there lol
I work 2 days a week. Im on maternity leave ATM since 34 weeks pregnant. I didn't keep DD in day care though.
People suggested I should to have a break - and when DS comes ill have a one on one time with him.
But I would just rather have her at home with me.
Everyone is different though
My hubby finishes work at 4pm so I do get time to pop out down the street childless if I need to get something done i suppose.
I think some working mums feel like they don't get a break, even though their child is away at day care while they are at work, it's still not really 'free time'. Maybe they are a bit resentful of that? Especially if they work full time (that would be really hard)
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11-07-2013 08:01 #40
Everyone is different though and I'm pretty sure if I had a second child/pregnant/needed free time/she needed it/whatever I would have had her in Kindy.
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