So as the title suggests - is being a parent what you expected? Harder, easier, more anxiety causing than you thought it would be?
I have a 9 week old DD it has been harder than I thought. I found the first 5 weeks quiet overwhelming and I'm a midwife do assumed I'd be cruisey, relaxed and not too bothered. My goodness the crying was torture to my ears. And sleep deprivation hit me hard.She's now a brilliant sleeper and an "easy" baby so I am really enjoying this stage.
I also have not found it as lonely as I thought I would - she's great company.
E worry about them is probably more than I expected too.
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08-07-2013 12:01 #1
Is being a parent what you expected?
08-07-2013 12:02 #2
I'm having a particularly bad week at the moment but no, parenthood is not what I expected. To be honest, the thought of putting my daughter up for adoption has crossed my mind more than once lately.
08-07-2013 12:07 #3
Huge hugs JR03 it's awful when you feel so overwhelmed isn't it I've seen a few of your posts and you seem to be having a really sh1tty time this week. I hope it improves quickly.
Anoyher thing is I didn't expect just how 1. Frustrating it can be and 2. How time consuming they are. I cannot fathom time to myself in the near future. Id love a dinner out with DH but too anxious too leave her.
08-07-2013 12:11 #4
I found that it is much better than what I expected. My mum had a really tough time with me so I think I was expecting the absolute worst.
What I didn't expect is how much energy I would have to put into supporting DH! He really struggled in those early months and even now if DS or DH are unwell then DH finds it all a bit overwhelming.
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08-07-2013 12:13 #5
No way !!! I had imagined it being so much more pleasant :0 I thought my little girls would be so sweet and nice and reality is satan himself would be intimated ..... But I would not change it for the world and I do have such a material instinct
Hugs for those having a hard time
It does get better !!
08-07-2013 12:26 #6
Bunx that gave me a giggle. Oh dear I was looking forward to the toddler years
08-07-2013 12:26 #7
I expected the newborn stage to be really hard, and was always told before having DS1 that things get easier and easier as they get older. Well I wasn't prepared for the opposite - give me a newborn over a toddler any day! I have found the older DS1 gets the more challenging he gets, the harder parenting gets and the more I question whether I am doing the right things. God help me when my boys are teenagers!!
ETA: On the flipside, I never expected to get so much joy from watching this tiny little dependant creature transform into an independant, strong, funny little boy with a wicked sense of humour!
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08-07-2013 12:27 #8
Uh oh ! Looks like I'm under some false illusions
08-07-2013 12:32 #9
When he was a newborn I remember asking myself 'what the HELL have I got myself into?'
Now that DS is coming out of the 'terrible twos/threes' its becoming much more how I had imagined.
08-07-2013 12:34 #10
Def harder, not in obvious ways though. DS was a great sleeper, and is a really easy going child. It's the guilt that has shocked me.
DS goes to vacation care because I work. He doesn't like going and whinges and whines that holidays are a time to spend with your family not to be at vacation care. The guilt from this is horrendous. He just doesn't seem to understand that without work (and subsequently vacation care)- we couldn't do half the things that we do.
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