Oh god this is me at least twice a week!!! If not screaming just plain toddler naughtiness.......i dread the shops sometimes haha. People actually stare and make it extremely uncomfortable! And when and older person says something i just stare at them and I think because your kids were perfect!
I have had to resort to giving ds the iPad with cars on it if I need to do the groceries.......
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03-07-2013 17:18 #11
03-07-2013 17:35 #12Senior Member
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I tend to let it run its course so I can talk to DD normally once she's calmed down. In my experience, the judgey/staring people don't have kids. If they do and are still judging.... when they can go to hell haha. We all know how horrible tantrums are and you can't judge another parent when their kid has one, especially given kids have the ability to chose the absolute worst time to throw one!
03-07-2013 17:38 #13
This happened to me today too, a few times!
DS would not hold my hand, instead just lay on the floor crying if I asked him to.
I couldn't leave so tried putting him in a trolley, hardest task ever as apparently his legs do not bend anymore!?
He screamed and hit me the whole time and an old lady came up to him and said "awww is Mummy being a bit mean to you is she?" ...If looks could kill.
It's hard to ignore the judgy looks sometimes but meh, I'm not going to give in to a tantrum because of what strangers think.
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03-07-2013 17:39 #14
You know what I hate more than people staring? People INTERFERING!! DS often chucks a wobbly because he wants me to carry him when I have my arms full so random strangers offer to carry him. Nice gesture but that just freaks him out and makes him cry. He's 2.5, he can walk!
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03-07-2013 17:47 #15
Yep us yesterday ive been sad all day because of the way i was looked at and where I was they were mostly mums.
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03-07-2013 19:14 #16
When my friends kids chuck tantrums in town, she gets judged and the poor girl is always apologizing for her children now because everyone always stares. It's not like you can stop the storm when it wants to come (especially when you have to say no to something they want).
When my nephew threw a tantrum while out with me a few years ago I just sat down in the middle of Big W next to him while he tantrumed and waited for him, boy the looks I got.
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03-07-2013 19:19 #17
Oldies have forgotten what it's like. DPs grandmother is always saying her kids were all so well behaved etc (but I bet they weren't, it's just what they choose to remember). I don't ever look at other ppl when ds has a meltdown. I just look at him and speak very calmly. Discovered early on that you'll get more stares on the walk out of the shopping centre than if you just stay in the one spot.
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03-07-2013 19:55 #18
If I see it happening with a parent that seems to be struggling and I am by my self I offer assistance/sympathy. If its me in the situation I let my child tantrum away and wave at people staring at me! They soon turn away quick smart!
03-07-2013 20:04 #19
I HATE public outings with my 2.
EVERY TIME we go ANYWHERE childcare pick up, shops, park absolutely anywhere both my children have huge tantrums over everything. It is exhausting and upsetting.... im a single mum so its always just me and my kids out... oh I can only imagine how bad it must look to see me with two screaming tantrum throwing kids...
03-07-2013 20:37 #20
I have had horror tantys it's like they know to play up when were out shopping etc. last week putting dd in the trolley (think putting cat in a bathtub) screaming carrying on alot of the check out ladies looking at me alot of other shoppers looking at me as I struggled to get her into the stupid trolley seat. She proceed to scream & cry the entire 20 mins we were in there. I had a middle aged guy say to DD I know mate I hate shopping too & laugh.
When DS was a bit younger he threw a tanty & kicked me & his sister while she was in. The pram & started pulling & throwing things off the shelf I had to restrain him. & then he screamed in my face & spat at me. So I stood up & smacked his bum an old lady say 50-60 started at me "how dare you smack your child , that should be illegal, that's terrible you should be ashamed of yourself " making even more of a scene than I already had with DD crying from being kicked & DS carrying on. Stared her down n asked her if " do you want one too?" She looked shocked & walked off in a huff.
I've pretended my kids weren't mine when throwing tantys. " wait til I tell your mother" lol.
& my friend sat down on the floor in the middle of JB HI-FI with my DS & threw a tanty with him. Lol was hilarious.
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